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Wasn't planned but felt right

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by DMG, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. DMG

    DMG Fapstronaut

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    A few weeks ago my partner found out I was PMO and I initially lied but after it was obvious I admitted. She was ready to leave and understandably could my not take the lying and relapses.
    After realizing most of triggers and committing to a 90 day reboot. I took steps to ridding myself of porn and masturbation forever.
    The last few weeks have been the most productive days in many years. Renewed vigor and ambition. I think initially a lot of my actions were fear based but I have come to realize the coma like state I was in.
    Last night I watched the kids and she went to a ladies party. When she arrived home the house was clean and kids put to bed and I was asleep.
    We embraced like we haven't in a long time and after a few minutes we started foreplay and ended with sex and I orgasmed. I was scared to death that I would have a drug addict response but it felt great but wasn't mind blowing. Today we have a a midday love making session that may have been the best sex of my life.

    I do not want to eff up again and make this the new norm. Any advice? Should I start another reboot with orgasm or simply contimue my PM prohibition.
    Thanks
     
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  2. Keep it up as you are dude! You're allowed sex with partner on soft mode reboot!
     
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  3. CodeTalker

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    Abstaining from pmo is great, but avoiding sex with your wife seems wrong. She deserve to be loved that way too.
     
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  4. Poland

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    Hi @DMG, good to meet you!

    My wife and I have continued having sex during my reboot. I'm into my 4th week and the cravings for PMO are becoming quieter and quieter. My PIED is also steadily improving, which is massively increasing my self-confidence and self-esteem too.

    More important, our connection is so much stronger than it's ever been. Last evening, we went to bed early, started kissing, had amazing sex, and then just stayed up talking late into the night (the sex was 100% spontaneous, which is becoming the norm since the reboot started). All kinds of unexpected things are happening in our love life these days, we're exploring stuff I never thought we'd try (vibrators, cock rings, blindfolds, spanking, sharing fantasies, etc.)

    Everyone's mileage will vary, but I see no downside to sex w/ SO during reboot.
     
  5. Wow! Awesome to hear, hope you get to full recovery soon.

    4 weeks is good for PIED recovery!
     
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  6. Mattybnewme

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    Definitely keep on going my man! Whats the problem! Happy wife happy life they say! Congrats my dude I think you got what you came to nofap for in the first place.
     
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  7. If sex with your partner works for you, then go for it.

    Maybe talk to her - does she understand and have any thoughts?
     
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  8. DMG

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    We are struggling with my apprehension to jump back into old habits. I want to have a connection and not have sex for purely selfish reasons. She was funny that she loves the extended caress and foreplay but she said she hopes that we can quickies sometimes. When I was using porn I would use Ed aides and I have suspended there use. I am getting used to a natural erection and the having reduced penis touch damn thing is very sensitive. I hope over time to be able to last over a few minutes.
     
  9. Is it making sex much more better now it's more sensitive?
     
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  10. DMG

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    Indeed!
     

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