It's easy to refuse porn, but then again it isn't?

My longest streak (46 days) I relied almost 100% on my blocking system.

The easiest and most efficient way (at least for me) is to remove myself from the process as much as possible. I got rid of my laptop, and have my smartphone locked up pretty good with filters and whatnot. I do not own a TV.

Anytime I try to “build willpower”... yeah, you know how that ends lolol. I’ll stick to my filters.

 

Having read of what you said, I feel you.. It's so damn easy to be exposed to porn or sexual images on the screen (tv, phone, laptop, magazines, newspapers even packages...)

A couple of weeks ago I wanted to check the instagram account of a vintage clothe store to buy myself a sweatsuit fro the 90's, I accidentally made a spelling mistake (just one single letter) while typing the store's name on google and the first 5 results were all porn sites... I was sipping my morning coffee and had just finished writing my nofap journal and suddenly I was exposed to porn unintentionally. And yes, I started to check those images; I am a man; not a robot. I get excited when I see a hot woman getting f**ked. But then I had the strength to say f*ck it, I'm not gonna relapse and I closed the tab... I think that takes more effort than a 50 days streak. Such a victory that was...

However, what I learned from this experience was that there is no way living in this world in absence of porn, sooner or later it finds you even if you're trying to run away from it. And no matter how developed your so called will-power is, you will eventually fail because you'll be exposed to it and your mind will never get that strong, to the point where you it can simply refuse and walk away unaffected.

So the point here is the way you see that sexy -maybe naked- woman. Because you'll be exposed to her hot image.

My advice here is to have a certain mindset about what you see in porn or tv. There is a difference between a camera and an eye. The camera shows you mostly asses, tits, hips from unnatural angles. This creates a fake perception of a woman, you soon start to have a perception like a woman has a sexy ass, or she has sexy boobs, pussy, lips etc. And you start to fetishize them. She "has" nothing. She simply "is"; as a whole. And every single female contains those. Every single one of them on the planet.. This way you get less affected and attracted by the images porn offers you. It also helps a lot in daily life when it comes to meet with new women.

"It's easy to refuse porn, but then again it isn't?"

It depends on your perception of what you see.

I say it is easy. The hard thing is to rebuild the right perception about sex and woman.

Hope it helps amigo.

 

sadly it doesn’t work for people that know too much about computers

 

You are sometimes e"able to say no" and sometimes not, it's much simpler than all the verbal contortions in your posts. You're looking for rationalizations like "no problem when it's theirs but when it's mine..." because (I project) you don't want to be an addict which is perfectly understandable. I often don't, sometimes I don't like being this kind of addict and often I don't like the idea or label "I Andrew am addicted to ___". It's the spin doctor in the brain, and it keeps you straddling the fence of "recovery or act out, recovery or act out" just pick a side it's ok either way. Sitting on the fence gets you nothing but discomfort, whereas if you pick a side and later regret it you can always go to the other side of the fence. No need for the endless hand wringing and debates, it's totally up to you and you really can't go wrong. You don't have to give it up if you don't want to.