from porn addiction to prostitute addiction

Welcome to the community brother.

You are not alone when it comes to this struggle. There have been many stories shared on here about people who decided to forgo PMO only to find themselves addicted and acting out with escorts. While most Fapstronauts encourage real sex, many including myself consider "real" sex with escorts to being similar, if not worst than PMO.This is due to the fact that your addiction to escorts will cost you a lot in terms of money, time and self respect. Stress from being caught in the act and from potentially catching life-changing STDs is also something that will negatively affect you. Lastly, the sex industry is a very murky one; you might be contributing to the suffering of a human trafficking victim, a drug addict, an unfortunate woman who was abused as a child or mental health issues. You should really consider what you're doing with your money and what consequences your actions have overall not only to yourself but also others.

Regarding your actual "acting-out" cycle, cutting out edging to porn is the first step. In my earlier streaks even a quick glance at porn would eventually lead to a relapse within the week. It is simply unrealistic to reboot yourself while edging, and according to some articles on yourbrainonporn.com, it might actually be terrible for you. I can attest to this because when I use to edge heavily without a release, I would suffer from headaches, brain fog and overall trance-like mood, and actually feel "normal" only after I finally release. Cut out the edging. If you can't control yourself I recommend using a blocker program on your phone and computer (PM me if you want a recommendation). Moving on to the decision of actually seeing a prostitute, IF you really can't control yourself and are determined to see one, I think you should PMO instead. Not only will it save you money, but you wouldn't feel as bad since being with escorts makes you feel that way as you said.

Lastly, I really recommend reading up on personal development literature of your choice (or you can again PM me for recommendations). Maybe a positive refresh of your values, mindset and outlook will help you generate the willpower and resolve needed to truly overcome these nasty addictions once and for all. Mindfulness meditation is also a good weapon to have in this battle.

Best of luck!

 

I recommend getting to an SA meeting (find one at SA.org) and more importantly, getting some accountability! Get a sponsor from the meeting, and maybe an AP or several. Get as many AP
s as you can and be honest with them if you've had some trouble, otherwise you might as well not have them. If you TRULY want to stop, get accountability and be honest with them and yourself. Otherwise, I wouldn't expect this to stop being a problem.

 

I think u need to ask the question "what am i escaping from?"
It appears to me that you have been using sex to handle your anxiety.
Sex is usually the drug of choice to men. Food is usually the drug of choice to women.
Start by Excercising and meditating.
Addiction is not your main issue.
Anxiety is.

 

Hi, I know very well what you are going through as I am/was/am hooked to escorts as well. I paid online and in real ... spent 10th of thousands over the last maybe 10+ years. My last relapse is only a few days ago, before that at times I managed to stay clean for several months in a row. It‘s not easy to quit but it‘s possible. Porn is no alternative. You‘d really need to come to terms, get honest with yourself and clear, have a close look at it, some conversation with yourself and face the fact it‘s a full blown addiction. Porn, sex, prostitutes ... all part of it.
I go to SLAA meetings since last July and stick around here. Have apps tracking my recovery. Have some recovery and accountability partners which is a blessing. But even with all of that I know I need to do the work, be ready to go through physical and mental withdrawal, take it at times 15 minutes at a time, one hour, one day at a time. There’s no shortcut, no quick fix.
Make a clear decision, know why, have a vision, get the tools together and stick to it. Promise to yourself not to relapse today. Not everything works for everyone. Get to know all the truck the addicted brain plays on you to get you back into acting out. Grow in strength and confidence, be patient, self-loving, persistent.
What is your main need need underneath the surface? In my case it‘s connection, getting attention, being protected, being acknowledged. But ... no hooker can give me that.