I’m afraid to try to have sex now.

I would talk to your girl about your addiction.

 

You are 18. I am 37. I used to be 18 and I will do my best to remember what things were like back then when giving advice.

My first thought was the same as Nicko's, "Tell your girlfriend about your addiction". Then I remembered you are 18 and she is just your girlfriend.

If you trust your girlfriend to keep a secret. Then tell her. I totally understand being worried that she will tell others. You don't have to tell her everything, just enough so that she can be understanding of your PEID.

If you don't trust your girlfriend to keep a secret. Maybe just tell her you have a medical condition that makes it very difficult for you to be aroused. Or, maybe don't tell her anything and break up with her and find a girlfriend you do trust.

Either way, you are going to have to take a risk, and either way, you will be a stronger person for it. Good luck!

 

Tell her! I was in the exact situation as you! I am 24 years old at the moment with a girlfriend.

I watched a lot of porn and mastrubated for 10-12 years. I was single then. I created PIED. I could not become aroused with real women. I tried with girl 1, no erection, failed. I tried with girl 2, no erection, failed. Then I went to the doctor and he gave me pills. Tried them, no erection failed. PIED is a brain problem and not a penis problem, that is why erection pills do not work. I was 23 years old and depressed! Was I ever able to have sex? My friends are having sex, so why was I not capable?

Then I went on the internet and saw Gary Wilson's presentation about Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction called The great porn experiment. I WAS HOOKED ON NOFAP. No more porn! No more mastrubation! Never ever again!

I was on day 50 something and still did not have sex yet. I went out on an evening and I saw a girl I was attracted to. We started making out and I got her number. We went on a couple of dates and it went great! We started to see each other a lot!

After date 4 or 5 we sat in my car and she asked me to come over to her house. I pulled over and told her the following: " I do not think I am able to have sex now because I was a porn addict, I started my reboot and it is going well, I would like to ask you to take it very slow with me".

She was totally fine with it. I learned how to give a girl oral sex and she orgasmed every time. After 2 months she became my girlfriend and we went on a holiday.

TRIGGER ALERT !!

During this holiday we still did not have sex but I started to feel erections under the shower and she started to jerk me off a bit and I got an erection and I came! After 2 weeks I decided to go a bit further. I asked for a blowjob, got an erection and came !

Then after 100 something days I was ready to have sex so we did it! It was awsome.

Now I am on day 219 and I can have sex whenever I want, just came back from London and fucked my girl 2 times in 2 days without any trouble or problem.

Never going back to porn and mastrubation! Never never never! Real sex is soooo much better.

So, hang in tight! Commit to nofap! Cut porn and mastrubation out of your life FOREVER! It does not give you any benefits, it wil only ruin your life.

Please feel free to contact me for further information. I love to help brother especially since this was me in the past

 

MikeSilva, thank you for your post, that is a great story. I am struggling from something like that myself. I am 36 and I have been addicted to sex chat rooms like Chat Avenue and other sites for about 20 years now. I am married to a very attractive woman that random guys hit on left and right for 15 years now and we have 3 children together. I have always struggled with some sort of ED. Historically, I have thought it was mostly Performance Anxiety because things will be going well for some time, but then I will have a failure one time and then the downfall starts and it gets worse and worse until magically it all starts working again. Those cycles started to become more and more frequent over time. I started getting ED meds prescribed and they did improve things a little bit, but didn't always work. I started having blood test to check testosterone and other forms of it, sex binding globulin and etc. While I had been borderline low on T historically, recently it dropped under the normal range and I was put on HCG treatment. That helped slightly but didn't put me to where I was supposed to be. Then I started testosterone pellets treatment and now all my T and etc are within healthy ranges near the 700 where I've never been.
Despite my healthy ranges and all the ED meds I have at my disposal, I am still having issues and getting into this cycles of good sex life and no sex life at all because of ED frequently and my only explanation at this point will be my addiction to sex chat, roleplays, as well as some porn. Although porn for me happens very rarely and I don't feel addicted to it as I have been staying away from it for months in the past whenever I decide. Chatrooms though is a different story.
Anyway, I am writing to tell my story but also to see if anyone has experienced what I am experiencing. I am trying to find a pattern between how much time I would spend chatting (sometimes with edging, but other times just chatting and having on and off erections while at it) and the failures that I have in sex and I haven't really found a pattern yet. There will be times where I will be doing a lot of chatting/edging and I will have no problem getting strong erections and good sex and then there will be times when I will only get erections when I am on my own in chatrooms but I can't do anything to get one when I need it regardless how many ED meds I take. Has anyone else experienced this dual cycle that I am talking about without having a good explanation of why? Is it just that my brain is now wired differently after 20 years of this addiction that sometimes I am able to overcome and have normal intercourse experience but sometimes I don't know how?

 

I think you wired your brain to obtain erections from these chatrooms. Your brain has linked erections with your attendance with chatrooms, especially since you are doing this for 20 years. The signals your brain sends to your penis when you are about to have sex with your wife are now weaker. You want my advise right?

Here it is:

- Stop these chatrooms now! Cut them out of your life. If it is difficult then seek help battling this addiction. It is not real, and it will harm your marriage with your wife.

- Stop mastrubating, forever. Do not touch your dick, let it be and let your body heal. Only use your penis when you are about to have sex with your wife. I promise you that these cycles will go away up till the point you can have sex whenever you want. The reason is that you have cut all other sexual inputs out of your life. This leads to the fact that your wife makes you aroused all the time which is soooo much better for your relationship.

Feel free to contact me for further questions.

 

Well I am only on day 2 of my experience now and as you can imagine, I have a lot of struggles. There are times of the day that are super difficult to overcome. Mornings for example. I tend to work from home for a few hours early in the morning, usually when everyone leaves the house and while I am online and working, I usually am used to have a chatroom in the background and I "multitask". The other trigger times are when I am working from home the entire day for example or when I am alone in the house which happens a few times during the week. I just don't know how to overcome those times. I am trying to eliminate them, so for example be in the office more often than working from home, but I have huge struggles with it.

 

Yes I had the same issues, when I was home alone I used to put on porn and start mastrubating. But these times are over my friend, it is time to grow up and step up our game. There is no magic pill, DO NOT DO IT, that is the only thing I can say. I advise you to replace this bad habit with some good habits.

- do you work out?
- do you read books?
- do you watch films of succesful people?
- do you run?

 

Goooooood!!! Keep going my brother! Do not count all your days okey? Forget all the bullshit about 90 days challenge 90 days this 90 days that.... it is all bullshit. Follow nofap forever! Do not go back! It is not a freaking challenge but a lifestyle change!

Do not watch porn
Do not mastrubate

Hope you make a lot of progress brother