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How do I keep this up?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Charfonglee, Apr 5, 2020.

  1. Charfonglee

    Charfonglee Fapstronaut

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    For the past 6 years I have struggled with porn. Like many, it and other sexual ideas were introduced to me at a young age, so unfortunately it’s been
    ingrained in me. However, for one of the first times, I was able to reach that one month mark. This was due to increased viewing of motivational content and stories of others’ addictions on this websites, my relationship, and motivation from real life accountability.

    I feel great to have come this far, but it’s also difficult. There are days when I feel fantastic, where I don’t sexualize women/other people don’t trigger my craving of porn. On the days where I have struggled with urges, I can still battle them away. So this is a success so far even though I would Ideally like my urges to vanish completely to see pornographic content.

    However, my problem now is that I feel like my Im starting to hit a Plateau in my motivation to refrain, and I’m struggling with urges more often. The longer I abstain, the more tempting and repulsive porn seems. I hate it even more now than I did, and Yet the porn brain craves it stronger in some ways. I want to beat this thing for good, but I’m struggling to know how I can do it, I just want it to be easier, I want to find ways to make it easier. I feel as though my front line defenses are dissolving and making it easier for porn to draw me back into its claws.

    I know how terrible it is, I hate it with all my guts, but I feel like I need advice from those who have achieved abstention for prolonged periods of time. And extra boost so to speak.
     
  2. SOLDIER MAN

    SOLDIER MAN Fapstronaut

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    This is a great question in fact and I don't know if I am the right person to answer this question since I did recently relapse but I'll give it a try. I think reminding yourself clearly of your goal is the most important step, because when the goal is clear in your mind, that is when your brain will abstain from sending urges to you.

    So in this case, reminding yourself everyday of your goal (which is abstaining from PMO for the rest of your life) will be the most practical and appropriate thing to do. Have a secret phrase and put it in your wallet in such a way that if someone sees it they don't make anything of it but when you see it, you remember your goal.

    The second thing would be to remind yourself everyday of how terrible you felt when you last relapsed a month ago. This might be hard as that was quite a long time ago but it will help stop the urges and aid you in thinking towards the miseries of relapsing.
     
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