When it comes to abstaining from masturbating and/or watching porn this is my biggest problem. Instagram Thots, and not just them exclusively. So what triggers me is going on instagram and seeing hot pictures of girls i know. I tend to fantasize with having sex with them witch is fucked up then i screenshot their pictures. I go and watch porn and when i'm about to finish off i look at their pictures, its fucked up i know but i want to stop. I tried unfollowing them deleting IG but is hard since im quite active on it and it difficult to just delete it and problem solved even doe it would help me alot. Anyone else experience this or similar please let me know.
What about getting an app that limits your time? Also, do you have to be on it? And I mean for work, etc. If this is bothering you, maybe a break, reduction, or even withdrawal could be good. I had a similar issue with Reddit (I saw a link on there, I relapsed) so I deleted it, so I'm not just preaching at you.
I think that would be quite useful to have an app to regulate use. Also a problem i didn't mention is that i have a lot of free time i only go university 2 days a week and i don't work and i have barely any homework to do so with all this free time i get exposed to images that give me urges and stuff
What about getting a job? Or extra classes at uni/extra work on you course? What about the gym or exercise? A new hobby? I've found I struggle most when idle. There's lots of apps available for that, but remember to turn it on and use it - those things are only as good as our resolve to use them.
Social media can be a really difficult trigger to overcome. Girls like to be hot and post hot pictures for the attention. Social media itself also comes with addictive effects as well. I kicked that one by deleting my facebook profile 4 years ago. It was really tough at first, mostly because I was convinced that I NEEDED to be on it (like any other addiction). Just look at social media for what it really is. How much do you actually NEED to be on it? Humans got along just fine for 2 million years without it. I know it’s tempting when there’s the allure of attractive women. But just think, once you’re successfully rebooted, you can have the confidence to go out and find actual sexual partners and have real, healthy sex. Keep that goal in mind, and your hand and phone screen will seem far less appealing.
That is really well spoken, like this is my biggest issue atm like i don't care about watching just raw porn anymore is just too time consuming and boring to find the right videos etc.. But the hot girls online is just my main issue, and also like you said social media does play a big part of this i'm always mindlessly scrolling down my timeline and when i see some hot girl or something i instantly get a urge then from that it goes to fantasy and from fantasy to porn and the cycle never ends.
That is very true i have always had this in the abck of my mind like the lack of activity i have, i just kill most of my time with online games and then when i'm bored of that i scroll on instagram then find a hot girl and masturbate and the cycle repeats itself. I do go to the gym sometimes but is not enough you are right i need to fill in my free time better, i need to stay motivated to use the time limiting apps.
I recall reading an article in the past that compared social media scrolling to slot machine addiction. It affects the same part of the brain..... Mindless scrolling and latching onto the small rewards. So is it possible that you might be scrolling with the subconscious intent to find tempting photos? You may not even realize you’re doing it for that reason. But it’s something to think about.
IF you want to stop masturbating , then you have to stop using instagram... it is your worst enemy right now, so many hotgirls there
