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Mini panic attack while masturbating

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Callisto1, Jun 22, 2020.

  1. Callisto1

    Callisto1 Fapstronaut

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    So I have been on and off nofap the past few months with many relapses (all of them because I was scared and wanted to check if I’m still functioning well down there)

    last couple relapses I had what I would call it “mini panic attack” while masturbating causing me to lose my erection, after few minutes I managed to get it back though.

    the cause of the “mini panic attacks” is that I think of losing my erection while M causing me to panic with a spike of anxiety and actually lose it for a little while.

    I tried to M again to prove to myself that won’t happen again but it did happen.

    I’m planning to go the 90 days challenge but still scared that I would be having the same problem. I need reassurance so bad at this moment. I think of this all day please help.
     
  2. Welcome Callisto! Have you ever experienced PIED in the past? What causes you to believe you would lose your erection if staying abstinent?
     
  3. Callisto1

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    I’m a virgin, and won’t have sex before marriage (due to religious beliefs). So I have never experience PIED/ED etc.

    I don’t really know why but even if I start a 2-3 days streak I get this feeling to fap to make sure if I was alright down there.

    Like I’m Ming why I’m scared of losing my erection! This I don’t understand.

    maybe because I don't want it to happen when the moment comes with a real woman.
     
  4. This sounds to me like your addiction tricks you to give in. It is easier for an addict to find a "reasonable" excuse rather than just to admit that you don't have control over your behavior anymore. I actually had this behavior as well in the earliest days when I tried to stay abstinent by will. It is incredible how we can lie to ourselfes, believe me! Next time this happens, try to remember that this is just the addiction wanting to play you a trick and push threw it! Not having sex or masturbation won't make you lose your erection! Even the opposite as you can read in lots and lots of threads in this forum! :)
     
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    the thing is now i would M to check if i have the same panic attack or not. But I will try not to.
     
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    It is a vicious cycle. But I will break it.
     
  7. I don't want to come across as too harsh, but that line of thinking is ridiculous. (I've had those thoughts as well, though, so I know where you're coming from.)

    If you really want to quit, then you will recognize those thoughts as excuses that your "other self" (the porn-inclined one) uses to justify the porn use. Smash those stupid-ass excuses. You got this!!!

    A great practice that's helped me recently is to try to separate my thoughts from myself. Instead of thinking "I feel horny", I try to frame it as "there's a horny feeling/thought in my head". That way, I can see the thought as more of a beatable opponent than a conqueror.
     
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    you are absolutely right. Thanks!
     
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