so its been 5 days since i stop PMO, no fapping at all but horny as fuck. girlfriend is out of state and we wont be seeing each other till next year. and ive ask her for nudes and since im stopping porn, is it okay to M to it? and if im doing hard mode is it still okay? help!!
Well that is not hard mode at all. Hard mode means no edging, no masturbating, no porn, no sex, no nothing. That's why it's called "hard", right? Jerking off to your girlfriends pics sounds pretty much PMO to me, but it's your call.
thank you, i dont quite know but ur answer have change my mind to not masturbate to it. if i do then i accomplish nothing.
This is very much PMOing. You're rewiring your pleasure response to a picture (artificial stimulation) rather than real life scenarios. You're strengthening the neurological pathways that you want to wither away and weaken by indulging in this behaviour.
Hi odan360, It's definitely PMOing. You would have known that if you had watched videos related to the science behind the P addiction. Here it is for you : Stay strong ! See ya!
Good for you for staying strong. The addiction will try and make you rationalize anything. It's a lie. All of it.
Have you had sex with your gf before? Also, does she know that you are on the NoFap journey? You said you aren't going to see her at all until next year? If you haven't had sex with her, tell her that you think she she is beautiful, sexy as hell, and a picture just won't do her justice. You want to wait to see her for real, so it will be special/holy/unique/what-have-you. Are you skyping or face-timing? How are you staying in touch?
Anything you use to get off is porn. Videos, pictures, social media, your fantasies. If you need someone to talk to I'm here for you.
thanks for commenting Hoshea yes we have sex alot, no she doesnt know im on my journey nd she doesnt have to know, i know she be proud tho.this summer she went back to cali for vacation like she does for the past 3 years where her fam is. but this year alot of things happen good and bad, this the part where we transitioning. she gonna stay in cali for good but somewhere far from her evil mom lol and im still in NY with my fam but im going back to my country for 4 months in augst for hairdressing career training so that why i wont be seeing her till late december or i dont even know when to be honest. since i been missing her and horny as fuck i would usually PMO but things gotta change cuz if i dont stop our relationship will end (she said so). i keep telling myself that im gonna change but PMO after PMO nothing changes until now im just sick and tired of disappointing myself, getting depressed. so i research and i acknowledge tht im addicted to porn and found this awesome forum. i read alot of story and how others addiction is more fucked up then mine, thats when i know im not alone and theres already alot of people recover from this. ohh and since i wont be seeing my GF till who knows im doing hardmode ish. so im 10days deep and havent PMO. sorry if its long ass reply lol we just use FB messenger and skype rarely im pretty boring on video lol
Well, if she knows that you already have a problem, maybe give it a month or so and tell her that you decided to be proactive and got help and you want to be a better man for her. It's not only honest, chicks love that stuff. Do you plan on moving out to Cali when you are back in the US?