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Every time I'm in bed, I keep fantasizing about getting reassurance from the guy who ghosted me

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by turtlebrain, Jul 9, 2020.

  1. Jul 9, 2020 #1
    turtlebrain

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    Every time I'd go to or wake up from bed, I'd keep having this fantasy of this guy finally giving me reassurance (because I kept obsessing over how is sister blocked me on Facebook), but it always ends up turning into something erotic, like hugging and making out.

    If find this all strange because I'm not actually physically attracted to him at all and I would never actually act out my fantasies in real life. Pictures or recordings of him don't do anything for me other than remind me what he actually looks and sounds like, as opposed to fantasy version of him in my head.

    Random side note, no picture or recording of anyone does anything for me, which is why I'm not into porn. I used to be a decade ago, but for some reason I have absolutely no interest in it.

    Now what really worries me is that it doesn't seem healthy to be fapping to this fantasy every other day. I've only started giving into actually fapping to it this year and it's become a compulsive habit ever since I started it. I'm always worried I might hurt myself doing it too hard or something
     
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  2. Jul 10, 2020 #2
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    We don't know you. We don't know your situation either.
    Good thing that you are not into porn. NEVER TRY IT.
    If you don't like having a fantasy ignore it. Don't masturbate to it, that just creates a reward for your actions.
    Other than that, if you have spontanious gay thoughts with no outside reason, and you even get turned on by them and want to masturbate to them, there is a chance that you are not straight. So in that case, you can do nothing but accepting yourself I guess.
     
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  3. Jul 10, 2020 #3
    turtlebrain

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    I don’t like the fantasy, it only gets triggered from obsessing too much about how I didn’t get proper closure... but the issue goes away by trying to be content with the closure that I did get
     
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  4. Jul 10, 2020 #4
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    perhaps you should visit some professional about that. I don't think sticking unpleasent fantasies do good.
     
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  5. Jul 10, 2020 #5
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    I think that's not the real you that is portraying these erotic feelings. When were induced and seduced into P*** the mind gets tricked. I've realized we get tricked into a level of dopamine release. There for we keep on coming back to it.

    It's the same way with us guys. If there's some sexually attractive woman we see, of course half of the time we're going to think the same way and act out.

    Secondly: You have every right to block her on Facebook. You have the right to say no to somebody on Facebook. I was just friended by someone I knew from high school. I haven't accepted there's and I may just delete it. In my opinion people take Facebook way to personally or sensitive to it.
     
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  6. Jul 10, 2020 #6
    Fallacious D

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    OP is a male.
     
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  7. Jul 10, 2020 #7
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    You might have to deal with the root cause, which seems to be the need for emotional reassurance.
     
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  8. Jul 10, 2020 #8
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    Probably best just to quit all masturbation and fantasy etc. as much as you can for a while (or indefinitely).
     
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