Skeptical newbie

Welcome, @go to eleven!
The superpowers are exactly what you say they are. And that's all they are. And they are also Super indeed.
For example, I as a single man, today was interacting with a gorgeous cashier. On the spur of the moment I decided to buy a package of peanut M+M's. Said cashier, who was already giving me goo-goo eyes, tells me that they are her favorite. Just to set the tone, I'm on crutches, I'm wearing the most common t-shirt you can imagine, with a mustard stain by the neck, and I'm all kinds of grubby because I have surgery on my ankle in the morning. I ask her if she'd like some of my M+M's, she says yes, and we both start taking them out of my hand and eating them till all but about 7 of them are gone.
Now who does that?
Who gets away with that?
regular guy that faps all the time offers pretty cashier food out of his hand and gets an awkward "no"
Stuff like that is happening to me almost every time I leave the house.
You as a man in a relationship will have an even better opportunity.
Stay the course and I believe things will get better than they ever have been with your wife.
A lot of the gentleman on here subscribe to the theory of giving her the play-by-play. I can see your point about not telling her yet and I agree with you.
Had I found out about rebooting in time to save my previous relationship, I absolutely would have told her. I would have done anything to fix it.
But when I start something new, no way I plan on talking to her about all this. Not till I see what happens "when the rubber meets the road"
I can guarantee I'll be in the best shape in the bedroom I've ever been in.

 

You are a good man

 

I'm not sure I know what you're referring to as far as super powers … It sounds like I haven't encountered this idea here yet, other than the standard Eastern philosophy/religion ideas about sperm retention and such. I guess I did read something about theories regarding magnesium and depression and major magnesium loss via ejaculation … In any case, I would also say that certainly one might experience life with a new found, seemingly magical, confidence and vitality once addictive behaviors have stopped. No question. I mean, that's why it's called "addiction" … it's bad. When it stops, it's good. lol

 

I have been experiencing said confidence and vitality, possibly as early as Day 8 or so.

 

That's one of the reasons I stuck to it.

 

I want you to know that you will not be able to do this "in secret". Just like with everything else she has caught you with, she will catch you in this. You need to tell her and have her support, otherwise it is just as bad as lying and cheating on her like you use to.

Trust me buddy, please, please take it into consideration. You need to tell her. Don't keep it from her. It will be so much easier in the long run. If you have any questions about or what to say, pm me and I would be happy to help. I hope you make the right choice buddy.

 

At last I found that somebody decent actually does this thing too, though you still must develop your self-esteem or you will not escape porn.

Indeed, these people love to exaggerate, probably because they need to explain themselves why they shouldn't watch porn.

 

Somebody decent?

 

"These people"?

 

How is it not possible to not do something in secret? How is she going to "catch" him not doing something. That's just silly, he doesn't need to tell her anything.

 

Hi go to eleven and welcome to the forum. I am a wife of a former addict so of course I would encourage you to tell your wife but you know her better than we do. I am just curious as to how letting her know you are giving up porn would destroy her? I would think that it would help her forgive and heal from her pain. It is extremely painful to know that porn has affected your husband and taken him away from you sexually. It manifests itself in low self image, body image issues and even social anxiety. She is likely still under the impression that you enjoy watching this and are continuing to do it. This is most definitely the reason she is not interested in sex and is suffering with low self esteem.

 

This is rationalizing.

You're welcome bub. I'm sorry it's so hard for you at the moment and I'm sure you have a lot going on. You mentioned your wife has Manic Depression? Well, my SO and I both have BPD and are both fighting this addiction. It is possible and I know you can do it. In your own time.

Good luck

 

I'm not sure why the quote function isn't working correctly. I wasn't talking about you, @go to eleven. That was meant to be directed at @ReasoningScientifically.

 

I didn't tell my wife when I started all this and she never cared I watched porn.

Telling her just would have pyched me out more and I prefer to fight alone. everyone has different approaches for sure. Good luck on your journey

 

I'm sure she cared, all women care if you are cheating on them.

 

No she really doesn't care and there was no cheating we watched together. I think she is perfect as she knows that. Ironically that's how I fell so far down the rabbit hole lol

 

"I guess you found the one woman that doesn't care that you liked pixelated women more than her.'

I don't and why the attacks?


"Yeah, she's a really good catch man.'

ouch, that's just an ugly soul on your part I'm sorry and I can't see why I would ever need any suggestions from someone like you