Suffering from serious fetish addiction and its ruining my life

I don't really understand what you mean about this fetish, but if your fetish is something that everyone can see isn't relevant anyway.

No matter how deep you're into porn, or what kinds of fetishes you develop, you have to be willing to face this addiction, acknowledge that it hurts (a lot) to abstain from it and let the pain go through you. We all have to deal with triggers, and this "fetish" might just be one of them, so think about good strategies to fight it.

If you're relapsing every 3-4 days, set a small goal to relapse only on the 5 day, after that on the 6 day, and so on.

 

This is a difficult one that's for sure, but have you considered the possibility that this may not be a fetish/kink, but you just really like women's lips, but somewhere down the line they became sexualized to you, much in the same way that I love women's butts, always have, but they became part of a much darker "kink".

I know this will be difficult for you, seeing the very thing that you like a LOT, but abstaining from any kind of PMO will really help, and you're going to have to fight your thoughts too.

You're not alone in this either, plenty of guys here that have developed kinks that aren't the norm, so there's always someone you can talk to.

 

Well, if you get turned on by mouths, I wouldn't find that embarrassing. Perhaps you're just overreacting to this "fetish". Men are naturally attracted to women, and this includes all her body. Maybe, you need to start developing your self-control, especially in your thoughts, but feeling attracted to women's mouths doesn't seem like a big problem to me.

I feel like the cause for your relapses might live in your thoughts, instead on your fetish.

 

I don't think hard-ons count, otherwise nobody would get anywhere with their streaks, just try not to fantasize about it, if you find yourself getting excited, try to do something else.

 

Well, the good news is that its not disgusting.

The bad thing is that its making you relapse.

 

I THINK I get were you're coming from, we might be on the same page or close to it. Here's my deal: Initially, not watching porn took some effort, but even after watching it nearly every day since i was 12 (now 24) I found I no longer crave it after 34 days of abstinence. I do sometimes still crave certain fetishes, like what you described, my whole body explodes in pleasure just thinking about them, my balls tighten immediately, but I don't get hard. I can make myself start shaking practically, with just thoughts, without ever touching my cock. Luckily I suppose, not every attractive women sets them off, only women with certain features/vibes. It's maybe 1 in 50 women I meet if that. I have not masturbated for 16 days and don't intend to until I can successfully have sex with a woman again. My ED is so bad that my cock is still only like half the size when I'm erect as it used to be, even after this extended period of abstinence (the longest of my life). I am SO thrilled with the mental changes I've been experiencing especially during the last week or so (my fifth week without porn) but I thought my sexuality would heal along with that, it does seem it will take longer reboot that part of my brain. There are improvements in the way I relate and talk to women however, Its FANTASTIC, It's so fulfilling its like absolute beautiful guys. I'm such a flirt and missed that part of myself and the rush and feeling I get from approaching an attractive girl so much. It makes me so so happy to feel it again. I'm just hoping to push through th ED part soon and start having healthy normal sex again. I don't ever intend to watch porn again, however, I would like to do the work to have a healthy relationship with occasional masturbation, I assume even people with fully healthy sex lives rub one out once in a while. We'll see. Any comments or commiseration if you can relate, or advice on how to dash the fetish thoughts are hugely appreciated. Thanks everyone! Hope you are all doing well.

 

1. Avoid situations, scenarios, and places where you could encounter your fetish or you have encountered it in the past. Girl at a store has a mouth that you think is really hot? Don't go to that store anymore. You get aroused by a hot girl's mouth on youtube? Don't watch videos where you can see women's mouths. Also on't pretend to "stumble" into something arousing to you.

2. If you do accidentally get aroused by some media or situation, do everything in your power to resist PMO and remove yourself from the situation. It is well known that those are the moment in which we heal the most! Actively resisting the urges of PMO when not expected reinforces neural pathways that resist porn, and make the urges less intense in the future. Use those challenging situations as times to succeed and fast-track your recovery.

 

Good luck

 

All roads lead to Rome. Doesn't matter what the fetish is, it all started off at the same place. We all stray one way or another and some further in others in different aspects etc.

 

Okay. I had (still have?) a fetish and I know what you're feeling now. It was something similar with a twist. I won't reveal it, because, one, it might be triggering to some, and two, I'm simply ashamed thinking of it.

However, I've dealt with it by... dum, dum, dum... getting rid of PMO!

I know, it's not some super secret stuff, but believe me - if you deal with PMO addiction, your fetish will lessen to a level of a nuisance that you can keep in check.

Another thing, we all have something that gets us more horny. That's rather natural. Make it natural by getting rid of PMO definitely.

Cheers.