give me advice

You need to keep yourself busy, try to find something that you like doing it ( not PMO), find a hobby, go to a gym, or just walk to keep yourself busy.
Block all P sites, remove all P from your PC/Laptop/Phone/Etc...
If you feel the need to PMO and the urges are to strong, go and take a cold shower, it works!

 

Hey man!

The good thing is that you're here. That's a sign that you WANT to make a change - and that is the first step. Many people aren't even on that step, so well done for getting there!

Now, the next step is actually stating WHAT changes you want to make and HOW. Then going after them, day by day, month by month and year by year. It's not an easy process, but each day it grows easier and it's worth the final outcome.


If you find that your lack of purpose of is what pushes you towards PMO, then try and find something that interests you. Doesn't need to be deep, just anything that interests you. And go after that - read about it, talk about it, write about it, study it, work on it. That'll help you develop your purpose, because even if that's not what you're truly interested in deep down, it'll help you find the place you do genuinely want to be. That's how life normally, no one really finds their purpose by thinking about or deciding it - they find it through time, practise and exploration.

And if you don't want to keep PMO going, then there is lots of advice for overcoming that. Of course finding a purpose will help, but sometimes it requires more than just that. It requires a strategy. And there's lots of good ideas about that in this place.


God speed.

 

Dear Forforus-Venus,

you wrote that you don't have a purpose in life. What if you take your time for finding a certain purpose?

Once I've heard of benefits living celibate: you strengthen your willpower, get smarter, you improve your memory, you can control yourself better. All in all one can say that you begin to achieve your goals in life. Don't be afraid of imagining living celibate for your whole life, live celibate for 100 days and see how your life changes in a positive way. I've read several times about 100-days-abstinence, it seems to have improved the lives of many people. I hope it motivates you.

All love and good

 

Make a commitment to new positive habits and stick to them regardless of what happens, no excuses at all, get tough with yourself, so that when the mind runs away with itself and wants you to follow it into sexual fantasies and pmo bring it back and tell it not today, not tomorrow and not any day, pmo is no longer acceptable, end of story. This has helped me. Also try to keep busy with good habits and things to do. I like walking and cycling, especially to clear the mind, read classic literature, learn and study, and if it gets tough just accept it and ride out the bad times, I think knowledge helps as well; watch people on youtube going through the same thing, Ted talks on the porn industry, brain science stuff on why you should take it seriously and get yourself clean from addiction. I'm still on the journey but it's worth it in my opinion and these few things are part of my strategy. Good luck.

 

Hey,
when you have this fantasies , start to count from 1 to 10 and imagine the number. Make a full focus on this. It works realy good. Make it again and again , until you don,t must think on PMO. Actually it seems like you know what you don,t want but not what you want. You have to find a goal. Otherwise you will land in nowwhere. I can give you this Questions and write the answers for youself.

As what kind of person do I want to die?
How and who do I realy want to be?
How would it feels like? And How would the day looks like?- Imagine and feel with all of your senses


What is the REASON you want to be or do die like this? Know your WHY

If you have the answers read them every day.

Hope it helps and good luck bro