I think i cracked the code

Good day guys i wanted to share with a story that inspired me to not give up:

Sahih al-Bukhari 3470
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Amongst the men of Bani Israel there was a man who had murdered ninety-nine persons. Then he set out asking (whether his repentance could be accepted or not). He came upon a monk and asked him if his repentance could be accepted. The monk replied in the negative and so the man killed him. He kept on asking till a man advised to go to such and such village. (So he left for it) but death overtook him on the way. While dying, he turned his chest towards that village (where he had hoped his repentance would be accepted), and so the angels of mercy and the angels of punishment quarrelled amongst themselves regarding him. Allah ordered the village (towards which he was going) to come closer to him, and ordered the village (whence he had come), to go far away, and then He ordered the angels to measure the distances between his body and the two villages. So he was found to be one span closer to the village (he was going to). So he was forgiven."

This man was a serial killer but he regretted it and wanted to change. He tried but he died before he succeeded. He died trying to gain that repentance; that forgiveness. And what happened: God changed the geography of the land just so he could succeed in being forgiven.

That's how much God was willing to do for this man despite all that he did. Think about what God is willing to do for us. Think about how merciful he is. We just need to keep trying till the day we die and hope that God will do something just as great for us.

Keep going guys till the day we die. Lets keep going and maybe there will be miracles for us as well

 

May God bless you too man

 

1. It varies. It used to come

1. I've had many dark times with my voices. Sometimes all i could do was lie down and breathe until it got better. If you are referring to my nofap journey cant really think about that anymore I've moved on

2. Yes i have failed many times over and over again. The best advise i can give you is don't let the failures way you down. Just accept them, learn from them and move forward. Don't look back and sour your mood too much

Also a word of advise don't over complicate the process. Try to make your life as simple as possible. It will help you fight this better because there will be less weighing you down

 

Hope things work out for you

 

Hoping this thread doesnt disappear

 

If you have an underlying health proplem that could get worse because of cold showers please be careful while using it

 

Sorry i made a mistake with some quran verses. The proper verses are:
"For certainly with difficulty comes ease. Certainly with difficulty comes ease"

 

It's been awhile so i can't really tell. I forgot

 

I wrote an article on work efficiency. I know its difficult to do many things right now while fighting porn but your life has to be more than just fighting porn. You have a life to live don't let porn take that away from you.

AssalaamuAlaikum
In this life we need to work hard. But if we do not also work smart we will lose productivity and not gain as much as we can.

Working hard can become stressful but there is a smarter way to work. Many a time people break a large task into smaller simpler to do portions to make it easier to do. And so suppose we break down the time we work into smaller portions, it would be much easier for us to work.

That is why i want to introduce you to the pomodoro technique. How it works is you work for 2 hours a time but you break it down into smaller portions to make it easier to do. So you work for 25 minutes and then take a 5 minute break and then again you work for 25 minutes and again you take another 5 minute break. If you do this 4 times you will reach 2 hours and then you take a long break.

This method increases efficiency by a lot because it reduces the stress build up that occurs over working long periods of time without any breaks. So now not only will you work harder but you will also work smarter.

Try to implement this method into your daily life and see what benefits you find. Make your life easier and see how much better your life becomes.

May Allah make this dunya (world) easy for you to conquer and may he grant you the best of the akhira (afterlife) and may he save you from the fires of jahannum (hell)

Ameen

 

I hope it helps you defeat this addiction

 

Hey guys i wanted to post something that i think is really important. I know many of you may think that when you leave porn your life will be on another level. That is true but...it's life. You will have bad days. But you will also have good days. You will have difficult days and afterwards you will have easy days.

So don't let a bad day depress you. Remember: "for certainly with difficulty comes ease. Certainly with difficulty comes ease"-
Quran.

You will have difficult days but remember after that difficulty comes ease. In life there will be difficult days so don't think leaving porn will give you absolute bliss. But push through those difficult days knowing that at the end of that tunnel there is ease. Push on.

Just learn patience. Make that your mission. Learning patience will change your life. You will be stronger during difficult times and during hard times you will carry on moving. During the times of frustration you will learn toletance. And during the times of sadness you will overcome. I can't stress how important it is to learn patience.

The other thing i want you to learn is gratitude. Be grateful. Always be grateful because no matter how difficult you have it atleast you are not deprived of a meal. Some people barely get a meal a day, some people don't have a roof over their head and some people are blinded by porn and watch it continuously without realising how much it's destroying their lives. You are blessed be grateful that Allah put you on a better path than so many people take. Be humble and grateful that you have so much compared to how little some people have . Be grateful for the life you have because some people don't even have that anymore. They don't have that opportunity to change anymore but YOU DO. Don't waste it. Fight on!

To summarise; leaving porn won't give you infinite bliss. You shouldn't stop improving yourself even after porn. Learn patience and your life will be easier, and be grateful for what you have because so many people don't have the opportunities you do

 

Sorry i had to change this i realised i made mistakes in narrating the story so i changed it to the authentic version may Allah forgive me i make too many mistakes