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Experiencing extreme negative emotions due to nofap and no P use

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ugotthis, Apr 4, 2021.

  1. ugotthis

    ugotthis Fapstronaut

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    I am experiencing these negative emotions to the degree that I cannot talk to people. I don't know how to deal with that.

    I have a daily gratitude journal and do meditations daily(it is more than 70 days that I am doing it daily for 20 minutes). However, if I have like one negative speech or anything like that for a couple of days I will be negatively minded. I am listening and reading red pill to which also makes me experience super intense anger, but I am quite sure that with PMO it would have been different. Is anybody emotional like me, any advices on keeping emotions under the control? It is really messing up with my daily life and with the interactions with people.

    Furthemore, while interacting with people I also intensively want to be liked, which also messes up stuff.
     
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  2. Metis07

    Metis07 Fapstronaut

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    It is normal and it will pass, just continue your journey and try to analyze your anger and negativity, where does it come from.
    Read No more Mr. Nice guy, it may help. And remember that at the end of the day almost everyone cares only about themselves, so they don't give a f about you or what you did or said.
    It is also normal that such information makes you angry, but at the same time you shouldn't be. Women are who they are and who society allows and encourages them to be, in majority. So just accept it, you may later pass from anger to indifference and just smiling at such women, then even to feeling pity for them, because the life they are living is not a happy life for them neither.
    What you need to do with this valuable information, work on yourself first of all and make a wise choice of your companion, taking all the precautions.
     
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  3. swordmaster

    swordmaster Fapstronaut

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    It is not due to nofap. The things you may be looking up may have been a tough ''pill'' to swallow (hehe, sorry had to do it). Try to relax more and do meditation. Live in the current moment. Do something pleasurable and natural like a walk or watch a movie. Remember, you don't have to agree with people to talk to them. Be yourself, dude
     
  4. Julian Baker

    Julian Baker Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Remember that recovery is a process that takes time. Anger needs to be met with understanding. So if you are angry about something, or someone, then look to understand the reasons behind the actions, or events that anger you. It helps to remember that everyone is doing the best they can given the conditioning of their lives. That includes you, me, and the rest of the world.

    When we understand something, we can then learn to accept things. From acceptance, we move towards forgiveness, whether it's forgiving ourselves for our failures and shortcomings, or those who have annoyed us, or hurt. Once we have forgiven, we can then move into the realm of pure Love.

    It's a process, and it takes time, but hey, no rush, this only one life of many...

    Understand that everyone has had a difficult life and everyone is just trying their best in this tough world. I know that doesn't always match up with our ideals and our angsts and resentments, but it is truth, and when we start learning to accept others for all their faults then we can start to ease up on them and remind ourselves that they're just doing their best, like us.

    Yes, giving gratitude to the great and wonderful things in your life is definitely one of the most powerful strategies you can adopt to help positively change negative self-scripts, and start re-programming unhelpful thought patterns, but there is a lot more we can do too.

    The thing is, it takes time, faith and continued repetitive effort, so keep reading your affirmations and gratitude lists. Also, update them from time to time, because the energy of them can become stagnant. Another trick, is to not pay lip service to them. Really engage with them. Feel them. Visualize what it is you are giving gratitude to. Look at the things you are giving gratitude and clearly state why you are grateful for them. Write these statements of fact down and read from them daily before you sleep and immediately upon waking. These are the most powerful times for re-programming the negative sub-conscious field of memory. Feel your truth deeply and honestly. Do not parrot and say it for saying's sake. Fucking mean it! Deeply and profoundly connect with your truth.

    Anger is a negative energy and it must be met with absolute positivity. Negativity can seep into every aspect of our lives when unchecked and it can take a little working to overcome but it's not impossible. NO way!

    Here's an example of the TRUER POWER of POSITIVITY. listen and learn brother! ENJOY and RISE!

     
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  5. We are all fighting the same battle. Porn is anesthesia for troublesome thoughts and feelings. You are going to have to figure out who you are and what you want without it. You are counting your blessings and asking useful questions. That’s good. Be proud of yourself for that.

    You are going to have to start talking to people about what you think and feel. You are going to have to get better at relating what’s going on with you to what’s going on with others. It’s the only way out and it isn’t easy or fun until you learn how to do it.

    We’ve got your back. You aren’t alone.
     

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