Firstly, welcome and congratulations on deciding to remove pornography from your life. Who knows? Maybe you've always wanted provocative images out of your mind. This will be my list of suggestions to help men (and perhaps women too) out of the habit. My list is strictly based on my experiences and relapses. 1) Abusing Free time In my experience, a productive day fulfills me. Exercise, reading and most importantly time away from a screen. Without productivity, idleness certainly creeps in. 2) Poor Planning A planner sits on my bed every night. Admittedly, it's not full. Yet, viewing the week and the day is a very mindful activity. The opportunity to organize and set goals is at the finger tips. Without a weekly planner, an obstacle is heading straight for me. 3) I-Need-A-Date-Syndrome This may be more of a guy thing, but I suspect it's more universal so here goes: The belief that we're nothing without a partner is false. Dating or marriage requires care, consideration and maturity. Some time ago, I criticized a user here for having cold feet arranging a wedding. I sincerely apologize for my post. Now, I clearly know that my post reflects my own insecurity. It's painful acknowledging a missed opportunity to truly begin a life at and after the bells. But in reality, we're all complicated. One of my favorite singers - Mary J. Blige, says that no one can love someone without loving themselves first. Instead of waiting for the opportunity to accompany someone out, take yourself out. Give yourself an adventure. No one needs a partner to explore. 4)Poor Rest I can easily drag this list out. Thus, here's a critical one before wrapping up. A full night's rest is as vital to the body as water and nutrients. If there are any strict routines such as work or possibly family care which require your full attention at night then please consider a time adjustment. I'm more than familiar with "graveyard" shifts or work schedules that start at sun down and ending at sun rise. Don't interpret this as an excuse to quit your current roles or to abandon love ones. Rather, expect a stronger and a more healthier version of yourself. If anyone wishes to add to the list, please do so. Feed back is also encouraged. Most importantly, get started and stay productive. A simple purchase of a planner really turns time around.
This maybe a bit off but let me add a thing to the list that has till now worked for me. Having the confidence: we humans can easily be made to think that things are beyond our reach but they never are. If you are unable to achieve something then change your approach to the problem. Trust me , changing the approach is not at all easy but once you do it , a whole new world. This was all for now. I am also relatively new to this. Will try to update if I learn something else.
Yes. Confidence is foundational. I like that you mention "changing the approach" when we're unable to achieve something. Reminds me of an Einstein quote. Something like: to expect different results from the same actions is unreasonable.
Update: 5) Arrogance Don't assume you have the answers or the best strategy. This site and all its resources are here for a reason. My success isn't entirely mine. It belongs to those who encourage me. Some are on this site. Others are people I meet while out. Your circle and your life lessons will determine your success. 6) 5 Seconds 5, 10, 15 or whatever. Don't revisit the sites, pages or sources of sexual stimulants. Delete your user accounts. Delete apps. This isn't reducing a diet. It's much more serious. Minutes of pleasure isn't worth the next few years nor the remaining years of your life.
7) Doubt Without a positive outlook, practicing Nofap is less like rebooting and more like waiting for the next firmware update. Nofap is the way and good faith will ease the process.
8) Old Relationships Everyone has someone - a friend, a colleague, a counselor, a close family member, a pet, etc. Establishing a new connection with someone who shares similar goals is a fast track to a new life. Each of you must be sincere in your intentions. Otherwise, one of you will be pulling the other downwards. Leave those who tug you because gravity already has that job.
