Porn and JerkMate

Spending that sort of money on long-distance prostitutes? C'mon man.

 

Seems that you're not like you either. You've been tricked. Those chicks have zero interest in you. Stop simping.

 

Is it because you don't believe you could get them irl?

 

First of all thanks for sharing. It takes a certain amount of humility and that is good. Don't listen to Yo stop simping, cmon' long distance, IRL? guys like Anti Hero. He's obviously here because he's a super stud right? You were vulnerable, gave into temptation and it consumed you. I've been into porn for 20 years! BUT it's calmed down from 3x's a day to eh maybe once a month when I get super nostalgic/lonely. The cliches' work though. Exercise, eat right, meditate, work on life goals. Shoot even cleaning the house. Good luck bro and don't be so hard on yourself. It'd be best not to spend more money on it but you already know that.

 

Never had any experience with cam girls, but did have with OnlyFans.

So, a 'sponsored' post came up on Instagram on a beautiful girl, I clicked 'follow', then some months later she started posting linktrees to OF and TikTok. I registered, and since her content was very tasteful but also highly erotic I decided to subscribe for 3 months. It was interesting to check it out, but lost interest about a month or so in and haven't went back.

In both cases with OF and camgirls, they rely on you to keep paying for extra content. In my case, not the worst 15 - 20 dollars I spent, but definitely not an investment to pursue into the future.

 

I'm glad I never got into it, since the lines between reality and camming interactively is closer and more easily blurred than chatting by text, which is why I believe I always stuck with chatting (another element is the disposability) I would imagine it is a much more powerful pull.

This just makes me think of two things: Cross-addiction and the need for IRL support.

There's a 12 Step program called Debtors Anonymous, and it's not the only one that has to do with money. In this case the porn related behavior is clearly related to compulsive spending, and is kind of a cousin to gambling in a way - at least in so far as when a guy might have hopes of meeting the cam girl some day.

Now as far as the second point, let me point this out guys: If your support system is only this forum or some kind of text communication, and your addiction is in high def video, real-time interactive, isn't there good reason for the addiction to be stronger than the support for recovery??

This is why I think we need IRL meetings and not be dragging our foot if the area has reopened. And yes, there may even be women who are attractive if it's a co-ed meeting, but you're not going to MO there in the room and also they're talking about having this issue so everyone knows that's pretty much off limit in that context. Rather than all offering sexual stimulation it's also the exact opposite in that context, and at least before things shut down there was mens only meetings, certainly much more so than groups that doesn't have to do with sexual addiction for obvious reasons.