Flatline and sex with wife

Yeah, sorry to say but what happened with your wife means you have not rebooted. Not even close. 90 days of hard mode (no sex/orgasm from any source including wife) is the MINIMUM recommendation for this very reason. It will be a big challenge for you (and your wife) but it's what needs to be done. At 15 days your brain is only just beginning to adapt to the lack of stimulation and the fact you had to call up P flashbacks (and were able to) means the effects of your addiction are still deeply ingrained. You might not be all the way back where you started but attempting sex that soon into a reboot didn't help. Start over at Day 1 and keep going. You've got this.

 

Good job on making it this far.

I would say if you can have sex, go for it. But it is your wife after all, and you should be able to talk to her about what your are going through. What is important is that you let your libido come back naturally, instead of forcing it through your imagination. If your are honest your wife should be understanding and patient about that.
Your emotions towards sex might change. From my own experience, I could never predict how I feel about sex now compared to 6 months ago.
Also, I believe that 90 days is a reference, not a strict minimum.

Just my 2 cents. Best of luck to you.

 

I have been able to do the "PM-only" recovery approach, and it has worked out with my wife so far. I think that if i had ED, it might be a little different story. You may need to bring her into the loop.