why am i attracted to 14 and 15 year old?

Social stigma and customs aside, from an entirely biological standpoint, that's the case.

 

I've thought about this quite a bit.

I believe it is not wrong to be attracted to mid-teen girls. We were all once that age. As we get older I do believe we have a responsibility to turn away from girls and young women. Many forty year olds are still mentally teenagers. Part of maturing is acknowledging there was a time for teenage girls, the desire is there and time has passed.

 

Two thoughts about this graph:

1) I'm curious what would be the results if they asked teens. I suspect that most teen boys who are honest are going to say that girls in their early 20's are the most attractive as well. Teenage girls have crushes on male teenage celebrities. Teenage boys, on the other hand, fantasize about the same supermodels that older guys do as well.

2) What do you think accounts for the disparity here? I'm sure a part of it is evolutionary and related to fertility, etc. But I suspect a part of it is social conditioning, especially through porn use. Thoughts?

 

I think it's in line with anthropology. The male reproductive strategy is to get a lot of females pregnant, but not necessarily stick around to raise the kids. That's why men are more promiscuous generally. Their goal is to spread their seed around as much as possible and count on the law of averages to ensure their genes survive into the next generation. In that sense, whatever the guy's age, a partner who is around 20 makes a good choice. Young enough to have a high likelihood of a successful birth and old enough to have the ability/sense likely to raise the kid through childhood.

On the other hand, women are looking for a mate who will stick around and support her while raising their kid. A good provider. So she has to balance age. Younger means better sperm. Older means, probably, more economic success. Of course, you don't want to go too old. You need him to survive until the kids are brought up. On the basis of just those to factors, I'd probably expect a steeper curve, at least during the woman's reproductive years. Something that clusters in the 30-40 year old range for the man. So there is probably at least one more factor that needs to be figured in. Maybe, if one's choosing a mate for life, it's a lot more tolerable to choose someone nearer your own age - more stuff in common.

 

This guy gets it.

 

Still not the point.

 

@Hold the Line I'm with @Mazda647 on this one.

I think that we are conscious of the shots that we didn't take when we were in jr. high and high school that we are interested in still trying to take them. I personally catch myself thinking about if I had those years back that I found real women interesting to have pursued them.

I don't recognize often that I'm like 25 now. In my mind I still feel like i'm somewhere in high school, at least in my desires to interact with others. I'm mature enough though to handle the stresses of a normal adulting, but I sure do wish to be younger.

 

I would also say there is nothing wrong with OP for feeling this way. I remember reading and hearing about this in the past. To keep it short, it has to do with the fact that you simply start to have more desires and fantasies when you are 14-15 year old because of hormones. Also girls start to develop more physically at that age. However, most don't have sex at that young age, which can lead to unfulfilled desires that carry forward. If you are 22 years old now then it is not so many years since you were 15 so I would consider it somewhat normal even. Of course I don't exactly know what is your current situation overall but still, to get rid of these desires, talking and spending time with girls in your own age group is the best thing to do.

 

To simplify even more, I'd say to talk and spend time with anyone in your age group. Talk to men and women. Talking with younger and older people is fine too, just remember to set some boundaries.

 

what is the point then?

 

well said but from an anthropologic point of views doesn't a man reach his physical peak around 24? before the invention of money they would make the best match me think.

 

This is data that's observed based on responses to photos, if I remember my sources correctly.

You're probably roughly right on what would happen if they asked teen boys. Teen boys would probably on average rate the photos of women at about the hottest at the same point as adult men, which in turn is probably somewhere in the 18-25 range. Exactly where is probably going to depend on your methodology and test populations (e.g., women get better at taking selfies / applying makeup / etc over time, a few women are late bloomers, and a few women put on a lot of wear and tear in early adulthood).

Social conditioning is a factor, but I think it's more of a factor for women than for men. Older women will describe young men as being more handsome than older men if you ask them in a different context. For example, get an older woman to start talking over an old photo album where she has old boyfriends or husbands in it, and you might see a very different response.

 

Material wealth and social status have been around for a really long time. Knowledge or trained skill has also been pretty important for a long time - Droog may not have all his teeth anymore, but he has fifty years of flint knapping experience and makes the best knives in the tribe.