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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Cee, Aug 31, 2015.

  1. Aug 31, 2015 #1
    Cee

    Cee New Fapstronaut

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    My name is Cee and I have been looking at porn since I was 16 . I have been masturbating since 16 as well. I'm 26 now and I want to take control of my life. I haven't looked at a porno magazine since age 20 but still struggle with Internet porn, especially on my iphone. I can do without porn. As far as masturbating I just want to get in under control. I haven't gone more than eight days without jerking off and this with or without porn. The reason I joined NoFap is because I want a support group to help me on my way to recovery.
     
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  2. Aug 31, 2015 #2
    mikepian

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    Hey Cee,

    Another New Yorker here!

    You are asking for support, and that's what this site is all about.

    Couple questions first, because I don't quite understand:
    I think most of the guys here don't bother with porn mags ever since it's become easier and free to get off the net, as you find with your iPhone.
    So, do you really want to quit all porn, period?

    Also, what do you mean by wanting to get masturbation "under control"? IMO, though some guys here may not agree, controlling my masturbation means stopping it altogether. But that is your decision. You would still need to let us know your definition of controlling masturbation, assuming you do not intend to free yourself from it completely.

    There's plenty of help and support here to help you with your struggles with porn, and with masturbation.

    Hope to hear from you.

    Peace. Mike
     
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  3. Aug 31, 2015 #3
    Cee

    Cee New Fapstronaut

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    Hey Mike, thanks for replying to my message. Yes I do want to quit all forms of porn for life. I read alot of studies about harmful effects of porn and I feel it has had an negative effect in my life. One example would be me feeling nervous around women sometimes. Especially Nervous around women I have an attraction to. Now I don't feel nervous around women I'm not really attracted to. When I say I want to get my masturbation habit under control I mean going long periods of time without jerking off. I can barely go a week. I want to eventually go two weeks or a month without jerking off. I am aware it's biological as well. The longer you abstain the more your hormones range depending on the man's age, health , etc. I wouldn't say my goal is to quit masturbation for good because I don't know if it's possible. I've heard that ejaculating is possibly good for a man's prostate health. I just want to reach new territory and go a long time without ejaculating. Also when I abstained for like a week, I've noticed my confidence improved and I was more assertive with women . Just felt good about life in general.
     
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  4. Aug 31, 2015 #4
    mikepian

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    Sounds good, Cee!
    Have you checked out: yourbrainonporn.com. ?
    Lots of eye-brow-raising info, as there is on this site.

    Most of the time, it seems, porn and masturbation go hand-in-hand. That is, most guys don't or can't view porn without j.o. And most guys, when they do masturbate, resort (eventually) to using porn to help themdo it. That's what I mean about just trying to "control" MO.

    Consider this: if you do decide to MO occasionally, for whatever reason, can you honestly say, one, that it won't ever lead you back to porn, or, two, that you would not have porny thoughts while doing it? As for me, I know I couldn't! And, IMO, giving in to porny fantasies is just about the equivalent of using it outright.

    On nofap.com, guys generally shoot for a minimum of 90 days of noPMO --- not deliberately looking or peeking at porn or P substitutes (like bikinis, lingerie, dating sites), along with no masturbation to the point of orgasm; Most also include no edging.

    If a guy can go at least 90 days w/o MOing, he can go the distance.

    As for physical reasons: there's controversy over the prostate effects. In addition, there is not a need to bring about our own ejaculation of build-up semen. It just gets absorbed by our body or expelled in wet dreams, as you may find out!

    Well, noPMO is pretty much the standard here. No MO is generally, though not unanimously, considered very wise, too. Oh yeah, buddy, having orgasms is probably THE most physically pleasurable thing there is, even if you give them to yourself. But, as you yourself have discovered, there are even higher joys in life, like feeling confident about yourself and "good about life in general."

    No matter what, there's plenty of info, help, and support here. If you'd like, I can share some things that have helped me.

    Much peace, Cee. Mike
     
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