Trying to conceive

Chronic masturbation not only reduces sperm count, but creates more defective (low motility) sperm, so conception is harder. My wife had to go on Clomid in order to conceive, and she thought the problem was her. It really bruised her ego, but now that I am the one taking responsibility, I think things will be easier. If you are having sex 8 times a month, why do you need porn? Seduce your wife!

 

My husband is only half right. His masturbation problems did cause a significant lack of sperm for conception use.
However, my ego was not a problem. It was heart wrenching to imagine that I might never be able to have biological children, that, due to financial constraints, we may never even have children. Every child I saw, every mother I talked to, it was like twisting the knife. For two long years. And the entire time, I focused on charting ovulation, daily temperature taking, etc.
Coming to realize that the only problem was that my husband preferred to masturbate every morning or afternoon instead of waiting for sex when I got home from work, it was like someone took the knife out of me. It hurts like hell and recuts the wound, but then I'm bleeding out. All of that pain, the daily disappointments, were actually caused by my husband.
So if your wife doesn't know just what you're up to, you need to tell her. You need to admit that you are sabotaging your efforts as a couple. And you need to stop. Kudos for finding this group, and I wish you determination and introspection.

 

I was extremely lucky in that I conceived very easily. Both children were conceived through intercourse ONCE in each instance. It was a true blessing since my husband had major ED and we barely ever had sex. You owe this to your wife to get rid of this crap from your life and regain healthy marital sex life. You can do it!