23 years of porn addiction

Hey man good for you for recognizing that you have a problem. Quitting Porn is incredibly hard. I applaud you for going on this journey.

 

It is difficult at first because we place so much pressure on ourselves, as addicts we want perfection but it's the journey and the willingness to keep fighting that matters. Progress is the aim. I still M from time to time without the need for P and have done for a number of years. today i see it more as a bodily function and i use my imagination, over the years i have managed to gain much better control and when you haven't got P to worry about there is much less risk of going down the rabbit hole. Some people prefer to quit M too, however I feel that we are sexual beings, it is in our nature whether we want it to be or not and i think having absolutely no outlet for release will build resentment and anger. I have found a more healthy way to release any sexual tension i might have. Of course the best way is to have a partner and experience proper intimacy but my situation makes it very difficult for that to be a possibility to me so I have to be more accepting of my situation.

Don't give up the fight mate

 

Hello, and welcome. I hope you get some use out of these forums - journaling and reading others' posts can be a helpful way to stay in touch with your goal. Simply reminding yourself of the issue and thinking about it proactively can help if done on a consistent basis. The number one threat for me was that pornography addiction wasn't ever really an addiction for me. Or was it? How do you define addiction? It was always in that limbo grey area that made it - in some ways - harder to quit than even drugs. With drugs, you have a clear and incontrovertible consequence as an immediate result. Porn doesn't always present an immediate consequence, and so can be easier to justify. I decided I was going to classify it as an addiction not on the basis of the consequences, but rather just my inability to control it. Anyways, welcome and best of luck on your mission.

 

We can define it as whatever we want. I often think we get too hung up on labeling everything. All I know is I was a slave to pornography for 25 years. I’ve been very blessed in that I’v’e been free from Porn and Masturbation for almost 2 years now and I still deal with all kinds of PAWS symptoms from this thing. Anything that could have this effect on my brain once I’ve stopped it I want absolutely nothing to do with.