I'm a 15-year-old gay (naturally from birth) male and I've gotten addicted to gay hentai porn. For example, I have been edging for the past 3 hours, but I didn't cum so I didn't lose NNN. I know its bad for me but how do I prevent jerking off?
Ok, so what I'm about to say may come across as harsh and it is in no way meant to discourage you, actually I'm saying this all for your own good. By not cumming and therefore not "losing NNN", you have achieved precisely ... nothing. You would have been far better off swapping that three hour porn edging session for a three minute crank over the toilet. The orgasm part is fairly inconsequential in all of this, any good that refraining from nutting is doing for you is being entirely negated by the porn and the edging. It's like a heroin addict sticking to his five-a-day fruit and vegetable diet, no amount of broccoli is going to save him from the effects of the hardcore drug he's putting inside his body. Edging is the absolute worst thing you can do to yourself, your brain is crying out for the release so it can come back down from the high but by constantly edging you are keeping it in a super-natural elevated state. I can't even begin to tell you what this can do to you over time but you need to realise this is your battle, not NNN. Also, porn is already a detachment from real life but hentai is so far removed from anything that you're setting yourself up for a lot of problems later on. Not only are you wiring your brain to become aroused by pixels, you're wiring it to become aroused by cartoon characters, what do you think is going to happen when you meet an actual real life potential partner in the future? The answer is sadly, nothing. You won't feel anything because your brain has been conditioned to become aroused by something totally incomparable. What to do about all of this? Well, first of all you need to see the seriousness of this addiction. Secondly I would advise you to tell your parents or at least someone older you can trust who you know will have your best interests at heart. I'd also suggest putting distance between yourself and porn in the form of blockers, ones that actually work and can't just be turned off. It's Christmas soon, the best present you could ask for is one that is going to help save you from this path that will lead to a hellish life. I don't support or encourage masturbation but at your age, doing so occasionally isn't going to ruin your life. It's a drop in the ocean compared to long drawn-out porn sessions.
This advice is spot on. And this article explains the reasons why... What if I masturbate (edge) or watch porn without orgasm? (yourbrainonporn.com)
Thank you so much. Couple questions: 1) What blockers do you recommend? 2) How many times should I masturbate a week and how long? I was thinking like daily, 20 minutes max.
That is how we all feel when we start pal. But we can all commit to one day, right? Starting tomorrow: commit to not looking at anything arousing and not touching your dick for one day. On day two: commit to not looking at anything arousing and not touching your dick for one day. Keep repeating this - "one day at a time" - is the way to build a foundation and to start to change your life.
OK. As I said, starting tomorrow: commit to not looking at anything arousing and not touching your dick for one day.
This is really good advice. The idea of taking it one step at a time, and the idea that no masturbation means no touching down there at all.
Do you have any specific advice for me, a 15-year-old gay guy? I'm really trying everything and I failed so easily-
I'd prefer not to get into the details, just try to find some other activity to entertain yourself with. Get occupied learn to code, try to fill your day up with knowledge.
Giving up heroin, gambling, nicotine or other drugs is not easy. Giving up PMO is also hard. It is for everyone bro. It helps to have things ready to distract your mind. Practice on a musical instrument or listen to music on Spotify - not on YouTube where the guys in the videos might turn you on. Whatever you are interested in, focus on that and not on sex.
