I'm a 15-year-old boy, and I am gay. I hate being attracted to men, with passion. How do I cope with this, is there any way to change my sexuality?
It's all in your mind, being gay is nothing different from being straight... less when ur family wants you to get paired only with specific people of their same social clique, and the rest of women/men gets sabbotaged... Bi here. Straight or gay, society can be a pain in the ass
No, there's no way to change your sexuality. In fact trying to do so is extremely harmful to your psychological health. I'd encourage you to seek out an LGBTQ+ affirming therapist to discuss your resistance to being gay. There is nothing wrong with being gay. Being gay is wonderful and as a gay person you are part of a community of awesome, kind and affirming people! Most likely your resistance to being gay is because you have internalized the messages you have heard from society that being gay is somehow wrong. It's not. It's just different.
Being gay is an advantage. You're on a level-playing field when it comes to dating and you know that you both want the same thing and for the same reason.
It's called SSA. Same-sex-attraction. There are a few options: 1) It's porn inducted; 2) You have never been with a woman before; 3) You just feel attracted to the male body, but don't want to actually have intercourse with a man, or; 4) You are simply gay and you need to accept it as it is.
First, nobody knows where same sex attraction comes from. We don't know much about sexual attraction at all. From what I have seen on the forum and what I have heard out in the wild, kinds of sexual attraction are somewhat malleable, but we don't know exactly how to change it. If it's not porn induced, as you say, I don't have any ideas. Even the possibility that same sex attraction is or is not something that can be changed is an extremely volatile subject, at least in some parts of the world. Regardless of where it comes from, you don't have to act on any of it. You don't have to have to interact sexually or romantically, in any capacity, with anyone. If it makes you that uncomfortable, you can opt out and it's not nearly as personally devastating as some people think.
I just asked a question and it gets deleted for anti-LGTBQ rhetoric and misinformation. How does that make any sense? Oh well, this is Nofap we're talking about.
You can ask me in private messages. I'm hard to offend, but I want to spread transparency and clarity.
There's literally NOTHING wrong with you dude. The only problem is 'some' parts of society sees homosexuality as wrong and unnatural. But guess what? Many cultures also saw slavery as normal and justified years ago. See the point I'm making? Also, congrats on knowing your sexuality. I know so many people who aren't 100 percent sure what their sexuality is, and it causes them all sorts of problems. So you knowing is actually a great step forward . My advice is to find famous gay role models who are loved by everyone. It will help you to realise that being gay makes no difference if you are a good and loveable person . Some of the coolest musicians and actors are gay (Elton John, George Michael, Neil Patrick Harris).
And thank you so much. I feel so underrepresented because I'm a masculine gay. Like I'd have to tell you for you to know that I like men
Well even though I'm not gay, I'm on the bisexual spectrum, and I'm quite a masculine individual. Being gay is not about how you act, but who you love and find attractive. This means you can get feminine gay guys, and masculine gay guys Trust me dude, there are many more masculine gay guys out there. You are not the only one haha
This is appalling advice, and you should be ashamed of yourself for even saying such a thing. Did you not listen to the kid? He literally said he's always knew he was gay, and 'NEVER' found women attractive. He's gay, and you clearly don't want to accept the possibility that some people are just gay. This your insecurity speaking dude? And no, the worst that can happen is not that it doesn't work, but that it results in acute mental health issues, which increase the likelihood of depression/suicide.
I was about to write something like this. So, kudos to you @Maximus19 for calling this out. Especially the likely mental health issues that would result from following the advice of post #19. Smh.
