I have know about nofap for 10 years but was inconsistent, luckily my porn usage cut down in last 5-6 years but I strayed towards pictures but would always end up back on porn just not to the abusive levels of my teens and luckily I never got into all the weird transgendered person shit I think that's a new generation thing, for me it was just degrading women stuff I'm tall, handsome, never had issues with women, I am generally quite passionate about life but this habit has ruined my life imo or contributed to it big time and held me back from my true potential. My biggest enemy has been me. I quit in beginning of the month not sure what day I don't count, I don't feel any desire to go and look at stuff, I quit weed too which I smoked now and again, I eat clean, focus on finding my path in life and I've learnt with that shit out of your mind you feel empowered, you feel clean, you feel like the power of positivity/god is in you unlike when you fap and feel so low and disgusting. The point is its not easy, this is 10 years of me trying again and again so don't beat yourself (lol) if you relapse just keep a strong mind. What helped me is having a dialogue in my head like a voice a cheerleader almost that gives me coaching style advice, breaks down the degeneracy and makes me feel disgusted by it, if you want me to elaborate let me know. Stay strong brothers.
Lool I know it's hard for you guys here to believe this as it's human nature to project your own situation to others I would even show you a picture of me had I not posted so many personal stories here.
I don’t need a picture of you, your stories either. You didn’t get it. It’s easy to ‘stay strong’ when you have these advantages.
You can have these advantages as well, no matter how unattractive you are. Assuming you don’t have a physical disability or are not in a wheelchair? Or have a disease? Or have missing limbs? If you are a “normally shaped human”, and can walk and run, then you have the potential to get at least a decently good looking woman Get your body as fit as possible for your body type… either lose excess body fat, or make your already skinny body type more firm dress nice, and excel at your job or in your studies or whatever other worldly task you are engaged in Doing all this will at least get you an average looking woman
@echofriendly I'm sorry I took your message the wrong way now I understand what you mean... @100 Days I don't know how @echofriendly looks but I have seen the black pill community and I have to admit much of what they say is correct in terms of no matter how hard you try if you are a manlet who is facially not good looking, heck even a manlet who is good looking then it's basically playing life on hard mode. Just anecdotal story here; despite how I look I always got told I'm a weird guy but "in a good way" the most recent example I was working in a shop most female employees there and a few had crush on me so we would just talk in our downtime about various topics and one said "you are a bit weird...but in a good way" now I can't help but think if I was unattractive to them they would think I am weird and not in a good way at all. Because a lot of the convos and stuff I say are a bit out of the norm (I'm not weird in a creep way btw I am very respectful to people etc but just something about me I guess is weird I just like to talk about things out of the norm). I mean I'm not saying it's impossible as I don't know @echofriendly physical appearance and "stats" so to speak in terms of height, face etc but if it's not the extreme case of manletism and ugly facial aesthetics then yes you are correct that you can excel in areas of your life and find a average maybe even slightly above average woman for sure.
How the hell can I be handsome if proven over the years I am not? It’s such a cliché answer. You can never believe it may do absolutely nothing, can you?
The point isn’t to be handsome. Your face is how it is, there is no changing it besides plastic surgery, which if a mistake is made, can make you look even worse the point is to elevate yourself as high as your genetics allow. If you have the most ugly face on the planet, but a nice body, you have a chance. work on your body. Also eat very healthy. If you eat really healthy, the healthy food can give you more of a leveling up effect do you have a juicer to juice fruits and vegetables? Research juicers and buy one Go to the gym, lift weights, and do some cardio as well are you fat? Skinny? What is your current body build? Second, dress really nice. If you are in great physical shape and are eating healthy, and then take a shower, with some cologne on, with a collared shirt… you can at least get an average looking girl Also, your conversation skills and emotional intelligence play a factor all I’m saying is, even if you are naturally ugly, you can make the other 99% of your life really attractive, which can result in a girlfriend
Well, I looked up the word manlet. And yea, I guess height plays a big role… but still, the same situation applies. Make everything you are in control of the best it can be, including NoFap and emotional management… and there is a chance… there is always a chance, even if it’s just a one time hookup with a random girl. It’s better than nothing at all we can all shoot for something, no matter how ugly or short
Nice… But that was the point I meant, as mentioned by OP. It can’t get more cliché than that, really. I can’t even comment on that.
Okay, I see about the handsome thing. well, idk what to say then. It’s impossible to regrow your face so…
There are many ugly looking boyos who built up their bodies or status and became attractive to a female. In fact handsomeness is not the priority for women, might be an advantage to get the first impression right but in a long term relationship it means nothing. There are other traits that women find attractive, like confidence, handiness and ability to provide. No matter what the feminists say, regular woman is in a need of a man who can provide for her and her children. Do not worry about your looks, build you body which will make you feel confident. Be confident in what you are doing in life and women will find you attractive.
I remember one of my buddys from high-school. He was not handsome at all in face, and had a really not worked out, but he always had chicks. Its because he was intelligent and knew how to lead the conversation with woman. All his physical shortcomings he compenstated with his wits. Its worse if you look good but dont work on your inner self, because that looks will eventually go away, and if you are an empty shell, your will have a really hard time.
I highly suggest to quit smoking. I've known many people that have smoked in the past and it never seems like it did anything good. More of what I've experienced is that they have more anxiety, anxious, and fatigue, anger. Most of all they couldn't last two hours with out a smoke brake. I'm unsure how much a calmness it gives you or mellow drag since I've never smoked, I'll honestly never understand that addiction. Prayer's for you dude, it seems like you are on the right track. Usually the handsome tall guys get taken in a heart bet. haha trust me what I've noticed in HS and all around it's always the same routine. lol
Although you have your personal problems, even if worse than those of most, everyone have their own. NoFap is a hard lifestyle, so his accomplishment is impressive still. Having issues or not, we can't know how far we may go without making the first step. Believe in yourself. Deeply within you're as capable as him in willpower.
I think I worded it wrong I don't smoke anymore at all I quit like 2 months ago or something a little while before this post, I don't take anything now no drink no drugs non of it and I'm not going to lie and say it's been some magical thing, what happens is that your problems begin to surface and you have to face them which is what I'm doing now and hell I've got quite a few... Yeah being tall and handsome only goes so far it doesn't really cut it when you are 32 and when all the used up women are looking to settle down, I'm basically broke, living with parents also work a shit job so don't think my looks are going to pay any bills.
That is where I am right now also. I was thinking about what I said and I apologize man. I know allot of tall guys at my past high school always had girlfriends I never understood it. It was like one after another. lol even my girlfriend now said she preferred tall guys but she just like me i’m about 5’ 7”.
