Shittalking or rambling is talking about enviroment , the surroundings and other stupid stuff. What u want to know about her is how old she is, whether she has boyfriend, educarion level, religion, single mom or not , whether she wants to fuck u or not.etc.So it seems u gotta shit talk or ramble first otherwise u will scare the cat/women like Roosh V advised. I did direct method and scared the woman. The goal of rambling or shittalking is to not to scare the cat and to check whether she is interested in you. If she is, she will ask personal questions about u. If she doesnt u should not ask her personal questions also. Shit talking is to built comfortable feelings for her to talk to you, to build trust. If u begin to quick with direct personal questions, she doesnt know you, u are a stranger, she doesnt trust u yet, so why should she share her personal stuff like her name. The art is to ask not to personal questions, depends on her, asking name to quick is no go for some women. So ramble first, to gain her trust, make her comfortable talking to you, then only ask her personal questions when she ask about you. One time I made the mistake to ask her where her hisband was, she was nervous for a moment, ended the conversation by saying she is busy now and cant talk. Should have waited for her to ask me personal questions.
Have you ever considered treating them like an human being that you want to get to know and build a connection with rather than just an object you want to "seduce" into sleeping with you?
Thing is some women get nervous if u asked them where here husband or boyfriend is. So to avoid this just ramble first about stupid stuff, see if she asks you questions about you, if not dont ask personal question about her either, or maybe ask her personal questions that are not , how to say it, to deep or personal yet, just superficial personal questions like for example whats her name, what type of asian or european she is etc, but even this is maybe too personal for her. I am talking about cold approaching women. Thing is in this case of cold approaching you gotta ramble or shittalk first, dont get too personal yet or just be superficial personal, untill she asks you personal questions also.If she doesnt ask u personal questions leave her alone.
I dont want to waste time, I dont want to build connection or get to know women who are not single or are not interested in me.
I mean obviously, if I was a woman and a guy came up to me in the street and asked where my boyfriend or husband was I'd assume they were trying to see if I was on my own to assault me. I've seen a lot of your posts and know your interested in "pick up artistry", please just know that the vast majority of women can smell it from a mile away and find it really creepy. With all these interactions, you're seeing them through the lens of a porn addict, of "what can I get out of this interaction sexually?" If you're honest with yourself, it sounds like you have no real interest in getting to know them on a personal level at all, and that's probably quite easy to pick up on
When cold approaching, even when u have pure intentions, u still gotta ramble first or shittalk, dont ask her personal question yet. Let be honest men only want to get to know women on personal level only when we are attracted to her. No men would cold appraoch women they dont find attractive.
@RecoveringInIsolation ,would u cold appraoch or even talk to women you dont find attractive ,ofc not, right? Like rarionale male says we men works like this, it is attractiveness first then we want to know her on personal level.
Night venue (clubs, bars, street outside bars): Indirect opener, but you can be more direct in the conversation. Daytime: Be direct in the beginning, show interest. Vibe but do NOT ramble. You can ask any of these questions no problem (the last one is a bit weird but fine). These questions are actually quite good in the sense that you can naturally put your hand on her arm in a comforting way and say 'I hope this is not a sensitive question'. It shows social awareness and it's a physical escalation. Obviously don't ask these. But questions like 'is your husband around? Will he be jealous if he sees me talk to you?' are fine. Do it in a jokingly manner.
