Girls find you unattractive if you're not on semen retention

I don't think anybody is a loser, I think it's just hard to expose oneself showing interest and approaching women, due to fear of rejection, but once you accept rejection as a normal part of the game, youll expose yourself to more situations and increase chances. Being rejected can only make you stronger if you use that as knowledge, motivation and fuel for growth. If meanwhile you are retaining your semen, that will make you stronger, more confident, and more attractive, so it will be another weapon in your arsenal. And, 11 days is very good streak in my opinion! It takes will to achieve that.

 

No it is obviously not true. If you’re good looking, there’s a good chance you’ll get chicks regardless of whether you retain or not. Could you get more chicks while retaining? Probably.

 

I was in a similar situation years ago, in the end I met the girl who was looking for someone like I was back then, we both had insecurities in bed and life, we tried to overcome those together, I went to both therapy and had a small surgical procedure, things somehow worked out in terms of unlocking a sex life. There could be a person you wouldn't expect just waiting to meet you, maybe a shy girl just in need of a sensitive or unexperienced guy, who knows! and she'll be by your side as you overcome those obstacles, be strong!

 

That’s what they all say.

 

Girls attracted to guys who retain semen is false, attraction has nothing to do with semen retention. Girls want guys who are confident, that's number 1. They also like someone that makes them laugh and who looks financially successful. You don't have to be loaded with $, but at least have enough $ to dress nice, afford a nice house or rent, and take her out to eat.
That being said, retaining semen is probably a good idea, because instead of masturbating, you can be out looking for women or better yet on a date with a sweetheart!

 

Keep it simple.
Try it yourself.

 

No, it’s not number 1. Girls don’t care how confident you are if you’re unattractive to them physically.

Who looks financially successful? Again, no. Financial success is one the last things on a woman’s mind when determining if she’s interested in you. Unless of course you’re dealing with what we call gold diggers.

It’s apparent that you’ve never retained for any respectable amount of time, otherwise you wouldn’t bring up confidence and then fail to correlate semen retention with confidence.

 

Glad you have all the answers, I disagree with you, but I'm only speaking from personal experience.

 

Not sure if my opinion is welcome here since I am a girl.
Maybe it is?

I wasn't going to comment on this at all... but the title was interesting(?)
There seems to be mysterious and mystical ideas about "women" and what we as women are attracted to in men.

Perhaps this will be helpful to cut through this weird fog:

Correct. Girls do want (need) men who are confident.
Correct. Girls do want men who dress well. Not financially rich, but has good self-care.
Correct. Girls do not like porn addicts, but it depends on why he struggles.

A woman who has self-respect and who is healthy will want protection and confidence in a guy rather than her trying to dominate him in a relationship.
Healthy relationships protect each other and are free-flowing. Where both individuals work to be confident in who they are, in one another, and work together.

No. Women do not care about semen retention... This is just strange.
We don't have any "magical" antennas or an internal radar (not to be confused with our intuition) where we can detect if you have high testosterone or other "benefits" from semen, which therefore makes us "attracted" to you.

Healthy women reason and think logically, with wisdom and discernment and not just with feelings.
We are testing your character, your personality, intentions, and values to see if you are a suitable partner. Never being attracted by or led astray your biological pheromones or possible raging testosterone that could signal "strength."
Everything must be tested.
That "strength" from testosterone needs to be founded in good moral values, love, and respect, and not baseless confidence in one's own willpower.

Many of us don't care about your masturbation habits either as long as you aren't addicted to it, aren't thinking about perverse things or other women, and porn isn't involved.

"Girls find you unattractive if you're not on semen retention."

No.

I was attracted to my guy (now husband) because:

1. He is a good man who treats me well.
He has strong unwavering morals and is Godly.
2. He is very protective.
3. He knows how to provide for his family; He is not afraid of hard work.
4. He is very intelligent, always learning yet humble and willing to self-correct.
5. He is a great listener, communicator, and he is not afraid of emotions (his or other's).
6. He seeks to understand me in every way, to learn how to encourage me, other people, and himself. He is gentle.
7. He grooms himself very well, works out, physically fit, trains well, and takes care of his diet and body.

The first 6 (for me) are non-negotiable.
Nothing else matters.

My casual friends (who are also females) are with + married to men who never did any of this retention stuff either. They are simply good, kind, hardworking men who care about us and family. They also care about the children. They are excellent fathers.

My female friends also are dating men (and have men) who treat them very well, men who are gentle yet strong, honest about their feelings and struggles so we can be help-meets to them and help our men to become even stronger.

The men who surround my friends and I are absolute warriors. And we protect them and stand behind them.
Our men don't have any of this nonsense about being obsessed with their semen or masturbation.

We do talk about this stuff all the time as women and we brag about our guys.

My husband is here and he says he never gave up casual MO in his personal life at any point after puberty.

He has never even heard of semen retention either and he finds it strange. As do I.

With MO, when we were dating, he said it was beneficial for him to MO because he would get "blueballs" whenever we were out on dates or whenever he was around me at first. He said it was so painful. He would simply excuse himself to a private restroom, take care of his business, and come back so he can continue to focus and continue our dates.
We both waited until after marriage to have sex for the first time.
I saved myself for marriage.

I never at any point "lost attraction" to him because he MO'd during our dates and didn't "retain his semen." I didn't even know he did this until he told me after we married.
I was always attracted to who he is as a person, his mindset on God, his confidence, and love for me. I'm not focused on what goes on between his legs, or his willpower to retain semen? That's very odd and shallow.

My husband still does MO to this day sometimes (as do I at times) and he is just as attractive to me as ever????? I'm crazy about him! I know his heart. That is the LAST thing on my mind.

It is very rare that he and I MO because MO is not real sex and MO never replaces real sex between us. Our sex life between us is active and beyond wonderful. We are madly in love and it's like our love for one another grows deeper every year! MO however, is just a rare option if we ever want to "release some pressure" privately and don't want to bother the other for whatever reason (away on business trips, sicknesses, etc). There is no addiction or dependency on MO or any of that nonsense, and P is certainly never involved. P is evil. Neither do we lust in our hearts after other people if we MO at any point. We only think about each other or about love as to not defile our hearts. We just treat MO as a rare "tool" to "pressure release" so we can re-focus and get back to life.
That's just our agreement after years of praying and deep consideration.

Stating, his strength, confidence, and self-control comes from the Lord, and not strength from his own bodily fluids.

Overall, healthy women in general wouldn't want to be with a guy who is obsessed with his semen or his masturbation habits because that shows a lack of greater focus on life, on real relationships, and it signals greater insecurity.
It just means he's not ready for a relationship yet or a family, and he first needs to develop his values, bodily confidence, his emotional control, and build his relationship with himself.

So don't focus on semen... just focus outwardly outside of yourself on God and others, and developing your heart.
Then, the right woman who is healthy will find you attractive.

If you focus on developing yourself as an individual, then you won't be obsessed with masturbation, semen retention, or anything of the like to, "make you strong."
Strength is found in taking action and building character.

Semen retention won't ever transform the real heart or true character of an individual. That requires grit, hard work, learning how to communicate, learning women on a personal level, humility, getting out there falling down, getting up, and taking risks.

This "semen retention" movement (when taken to extremes?) is strongly sounding like a "get rich quick" scheme for people struggling with relationship problems, or for people who have an addiction to masturbation to motivate them to stop by spreading potentially dangerous misinformation about women, our needs, our desires, our wishes, and our psychology.
Or some kind of online sex cult that gaslights and brainwashes certain men into believing that semen retention gives you (supernatural) superpowers over women to woo them?
Seems to be teaching here the doctrine that women are inherently dumb and swayed away by everything. Perhaps this is something to be aware of. Stay safe out there.

We need to get back to reality and wisdom.
No individual (man or woman) is simply given over to biology, feelings, or emotions unless they choose to abandon reason and therefore refuse to implement self-control. Such is the nature of, "choice."
Such is the nature of "temptation," to give up self-control for instant gratification or destructive things that will never fulfill.

But don't let our personal beliefs distract from your own consciences or personal goals, however.
Some people are strongly against M or O for certain religious traditions (or matters of personal conscience, which I respect).

Overall, just treat her with respect, be a faithful and honest guy, be humble, be a hard worker, emotionally connected, focus on developing yourself (and not some semen), pursue her, and truly care for her heart, and healthy women will find you very attractive.

Make sure you find a woman who also has self-respect and who also seeks to understand you. A woman who is also hard working, who takes effort to learn elegance, strength, and respect for you.

When you have love (charity), such a love never fails.

Take care, and best wishes.

 

Your opinion is more than welcome.
Thank you!

 

Thank you, Roady!
Hope you are well.

 

What experience would that be? I’ve been dating all kinds of women since I was 12. Yes I have always practiced basic hygiene and dressed decently.. that pretty much goes without say. But that has nothing to do with “looking financially successful” and needing a house and car etc. I’ve dated women all throughout my 20s while living in my parents house and using their car. So yeah my experience, which I’d imagine is a lot more vast than yours, says otherwise.

 

You wouldn’t know it if it was happening. Its just a subconscious attraction that occurs. Sexual energy is magnetic.

So your husband masturbates within your marriage. And you find the opposite of that to be strange. Interesting.

The Lord gives strength to those who serve him. Serving the flesh does not serve the Lord. Tell him to pick up the bible once in a while. Particularly Corinthians.

Right, a man who masturbates without hesitation is much more focused on life and not at all insecure.

Coming from a woman I find this quite laughable. At first I did welcome your opinion, but then you started to speak on semen retention as if you have any clue about it. You seem to think that because your husband is incapable of it, that it’s irrelevant.

Abstinence from pmo by its very nature requires you to develop yourself. Otherwise you won’t be abstaining for long. The entire point is that you abstain so that you can focus on developing yourself, rather than wasting your time and resources on fleeting pleasures.

 

Yes, you are quite the stud. I'm sure you have had a vast experience, you win. However, I doubt you had or have half of what I have. That includes a beautiful wife like mine, many pretty women in the past, money I have in the bank, and a much better attitude. Now why don't we leave it at that and I'm happy to not read anymore of your nonsense.

 

My reply did not post, but I wanted to tell @GodsDaughter that she's an awesome lady, and I'm glad her husband appreciates her. Thank you for sharing.
Nomo

 

Spiritual Immunity - You are an idiot, you should be nicer to this woman. It's a shame you probably never had an intimate relationship with a women. If you had you would be better at talking to them.