Any ideas on how to find new friends?

Thanks for the reply, but I disagree that it has to be that way. I think you should have friends through out life no matter what phase of life you are in. Friends are critical for mental health and happiness.
FYI - I'm 64-years-old. When I was building a family and a career, I had a lot of friends in my neighborhood because we were all stuck home with young children and we would get together and hang out with our little kids. What happened is I moved out of state and had to find new friends. It became harder for me because I worked from home, my kids were older, and I found myself alone too often.

 

I'm sorry to hear that, I have no answer to explain your feelings. Hopefully you will find reasons to feel better. I'm assuming that you may have a bit of depression that's causing you to not feel as good as you could? Again, I don't know, but wishing you the best.
Nomo

 

Nice answer!
What I have heard is you need to spend 200-hours with someone to become a close friend. That's a lot of time if you are not working with them or in school with them 40-hours per week or have another reason to spend so much time with them.
Knowing that it takes a lot of time to make a "true" friend, I need to start asking the people that I'm meeting to spend time with me outside of the activity where we met. Also I have to consistently keep coming back to the same meetings/activities where the people are in order to establish the familiarity with them.

 

Good to know. I had a bit of depression, but it was mostly job-related and instead of dealing with it in a positive way I would watch porn to feel better.
If the talking topics are not enjoyable, it probably means you need to find more like-minded friends.
Good luck to you on your journey.
Nomo

 

Good point, it's easy to become obsessive with our numbers, counting, and the rest of it. Right now the only number that matters to me is how many days I stay PMO free.
Thanks for your response.