34 days in. My biggest battle lately is these frickin mornings. As soon as I wake up I can’t stop thinking about PMO. It’s like my brain gives me this false sense of security that it’s okay to just browse and look at stuff…like fuck that. I have better ways to start my mornings. I know I’ll feel like total shit afterwards and it’ll just delay my progress even if I look at things without touching myself. Getting out of bed and starting my morning routine helps tremendously and takes my mind off of things. I feel essentially no urges after that. But that moment waking up is pretty difficult not to slip up!
For me too.. Usually I am affected by how I go to sleep, like if is junk entertainment then thats a reward and considering how our reward system is wrecked... mornings just want more. Like when we were kids and played video games for the first time, then next day we were thinking all day to play again. Its fucked up, entertainment is psychological cancer.
You figured it out! I have the same problem, but the minute I get out of bed the urge is gone. Now I have to remind myself to get my lazy ass out of bed. Good luck, Nomo
That’s a really good point of view, I like your video game analogy a lot. It’s exactly that, brain just craving a hit of that thing that made it feel good. Gotta feed it the really good things though, the kinds of things that take some effort. I went hiking last Saturday and it was such a beautiful experience. I felt a pure sense of dopamine/adrenaline and feeling alive and awake. I want to work towards more feelings like that than the “easy” dopamine.
I'm lucky in a screwed up way, I only watch porn on a big monitor. I have a PC dedicated for only porn that is hooked up to a remote monitor. Porn on a 4-inch screen never did it for me. Where I have a problem in the AM, is I wake up horny and ready to MO. That's where getting out of bed keeps me on track. All the best, Nomo
There's no real solution but the self-discipline to get TF up and start your day. I was blessed with the experience of Basic Training, so I have the neural pathways, plus the ability to recall Drill Sergeants screaming creative insults in my groggy face.
Work on both the morning and evening side simultaneously until you no longer need an alarm clock, not even as a backup because you know you'll wake up even if you sleep less once in a while. As far as getting out of bed in the morning I used to keep a drink within reaching distance sometimes. Not any crazy energy drink but a little sugar a little caffeine to get you going.
Taking cold shower would help. I tried this and regain my reason for a short period of time. Then I switch off phone, PC and go out to get something to do. Stay out of a private room is the key. Porn doesn't happen when you are outside/staying in the crowd. Last but not least, memorising your determination is very important. I would like to recommend a movie to you "The Shawshang Redemption", as I am redeemed by this film too.
Been there, done that. Strangely today early in the morning, after a mere 13 days of no PMO, I forced myself into it, though I didn't feel like a PMO. A new form of my addiction perhaps.
Jeez, for me its the opposite haha. My nights are the worst!!!! Im always in bed feelig so neurotic. Almost all my PMO sessions are right before bed. My mornings are almost always totally effortless. How are ur nights?