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Can't achieve orgasm during sex. Time to reboot 1st post

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Tryranasoars, Dec 24, 2015.

  1. Dec 24, 2015 #1
    Tryranasoars

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    Hey guys my name is Alex. I'm 18 years old and have been masturbating since I was 7. I've been watching porn since I was 9 or 10. It started out as me just google searching naked girls. Through middle school and highschool I watched hardcore porn and I've been watching porn all the way through puberty and it has been really detrimental to my sex life.

    My last sexual encounter was quite embarrassing. We were having sex for 2 hours until she said she couldn't take it anymore, so then she blew me for 20 minutes. Her mouth was tired so I just masturbated and it took me another hour laying next to her as I masturbated and she just kind of layed there akwardly. So I finally achieved an orgasm but it took me over 3 hours.

    So now I've decided I need to make a change and not let this incident repeat itself. Usually I cannot go a day without masturbating, and if I go 3 days without masturbating I cannot think about anything else besides sex. But after my last sexual encounter, for 10 days I did not masturbate with relative ease. I have no idea why it was so easy but my libido seemed to be lower have that last sexual encounter. Just yesterday though I watched pron again and I did it twice today, so my regular sexual urges are coming back again.

    I am going to try to abstain from any type of orgasm for 90 days and hopefully I can make love like a normal person. I think this community is just what I need to help me reach my goals. I might still have sex just to please my partner but I won't orgasm. The 10 days that I did not masturbate for has been the longest I've ever went without orgssm since middle school. 90 days is the next goal though. Wish me luck!
     
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  2. Dec 24, 2015 #2
    Eagle15

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    The same issue brother , I'm 51 my fiancée is spectacular and 24 but it takes me hours . Hoping this will fix that.
     
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  3. Dec 26, 2015 #3
    Septimus

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Let me know if I can help.
     
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  4. Dec 27, 2015 #4
    PatentPending

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    Hi Alex,

    Believe me, there are a lot of guys that know how that feels. I believe you have the discipline to change that and hope I will have the same power. I'm starting the 90 day challenge for the first time as well ;-)

    Regards,
    Koos
     
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  5. Dec 28, 2015 #5
    Tryranasoars

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    Hey bro how did you start the 90 day challenge on your post with the progress bar
     
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  6. Dec 28, 2015 #6
    PatentPending

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    Hi Alex,

    If you click on the green and white bar in my signature, it will bring you to a site where you can start your own counter. It requires a Google Account (I made one).

    After you have created the counter, you get a snippet of code which you can put in your signature. However, it requires some posts and likes before you can edit you signature.

    Regards,
    Patent
     
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  7. Dec 28, 2015 #7
    Rav70

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    Hi Alex. As a woman I can say it does matter that my boyfriend climaxes during intercourse. Your suggestion of just having sex to please them without you climaxing might backfire.
    My boyfriend had the same issue. Its been 3 weeks with no porn and we are having amazing sex and both climax.
    That said, you started so young. So sad to me. I have two boys 13 and 11 and we are fixing to talk to the oldest about porn and masturbation. Awkward but it needs to be addressed. Best of luck to you.
     
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  8. Dec 28, 2015 #8
    Tryranasoars

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    Ah ok thanks bro
    Yeah I guess it is sad, I never realized what it would do to me watching porn almost all the way through puberty.
     
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  9. Dec 28, 2015 #9
    Rav70

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    Neither did my bf. He's baffled more isn't being said about the negative side effects of porn. He says now that he is aware, everything makes sense to him.
     
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