After 7 months of NoFap, I've come to the realization that superpowers are absolute BS. Along with the notions that NoFap will cure anxiety and depression. None of this is true. NoFap will not fix anything in your life. It has to be you that does it. NoFap will break you free of your porn/masturbation addiction and that's about it. But that's a huge thing on it's own. By breaking free of the addictive cycle, you're opening up so many other paths for you in your life. Oh yeah, this is just in my case, but NoFap hasn't made me feel more attractive or more confident. I feel just the same as before. In my honest opinion, NoFap will not make it suddenly easier for you to talk to girls. In most cases that I see it seems to be a placebo effect. Anyways, what I'm really trying to say is that NoFap isn't going to magically fix everything in your life. It will enable you to better yourself, but you have to put in that effort. Don't sit around and wait for NoFap to make your life automatically better. Can't talk to girls? Get out there and get some experience. Fuck up a couple of times. You're not gonna get it on your first or second try. You have to be willing to make mistakes, so that you can learn. Don't be afraid to go out there and live your life. After all, aren't these things that you want the reason you started? It'll be hard, but ultimately so worth it in the end, like NoFap.
Heh, yeah, I could've written that with a more positive tone. I would be talking more about my own personal successes but I haven't actually fully recovered yet. I went face deep into some pretty hardcore stuff at a young age so my journey has been a bit tougher.
I like this post. Many think that stopping pmo will be a cure all for all anxiety/female problems/confidence. Its not. Its sure helps but it really is up to you to make changes on your own and not rely on nofap to be a end all be all cure when other effort is needed
Believe me, mate! All (or at least most) of us here have a story to tell about tough shit in their childhood, however the menthal neglect grows the more we mature! I didn't meen to be critical. I like what you wrote and I am confident that you are on track. Stay strong
I am happy for your success brother. I get the jist of what you are trying to say.. "NoFap will not fix anything in your life"... I totally disagree with your absolutes. People will have varying success depending on their unique situations. I don't see the benefit of posting something that can be demotivational. We need every positive motivation to get out of this Hell. It is easy for you to say it because you have been successful. Let each person who reaches that stage make their own judgements. I do like the latter part of your post. Brother, we have to give each other support and hope. Anything less will really hurt someone who is struggling to hold on (like all of us). I wish you much success in your journey. Stay strong! Win!
I've seen countless and countless and countless number of Reboot stories that say that their social anxiety, anxiety in general, low self esteem, all had been cured by stopping the use of pornography and masturbating. I've read all the science behind what porn does to your brain and how addiction alters the reward circuit and certain areas in your brain that are responsible for feeling anxiety and by removing porn, all of that goes away. So I don't think it's right to say that NoFap won't do any of that because it IS an addiction that DOES change the brain. When you stop using porn and give your brain a rest from stimulation, you become resensitized, your brain changes and you will feel those changes, whether they be anxiety, low self esteem or whatever. So just because it didn't do that for you doesn't necessarily mean it won't for anyone else. I agree with you when you say that you have to get out there and experience life, no doubt about that. No one should just be sitting around all day doing nothing waiting for something to happen. But addiction related brain changes do bring about feelings of anxiety and a host of other symptoms.
Amen to that bro! I am the right example here. I got no superpower as mentioned many times here - but there is a chnege in my life and i appreciated so much!!! I no longer spend time in front of PC looking at porn. I read more, look up for another useful information how to improve myself, i invest into my own spirit and knowledge as never before and it feels amazing. SUre, it is you who can do better version of youself, but NOFAP can only help you on this journey. I personally believe that it CAN boost your self-esteem and you approach to girls and it can boost your aura - it is my humble opinion. The thing is - we are all different - what works for one doesnt work for other. And everyone has different timing - thats for sure! Cheers
There's a caveat : you may get "superpowers" (I don't like that word) but won't be aware of those unless you use them. Nofap is about strengthening willpower and changing habits. This is the sole power you'll gain, but it's a huge one, because resisting porn and fapping is one of the hardest things to do : it's free and always available, so you need a massive amount of method, discipline and willpower to do it. If you can do it for this addiction, you can do it for anything, like getting in shape, overcoming anxiety, having a thriving job, getting comfortable with women... It's not "superpowers", but it is power : power over yourself, and you can use it at anything you want, because now, you know you can do it.
Well done to you, but totally disagree, that's just your experience everybody is a different person..
That is not very nice @taqwa! "It is easy for you to say" is a statement that should not appear in these threads. You have no idea what this kid has been through. Furthermore, I support his realization that superpowers are absolute BS. Very true!
If you stop fapping you get horny and interested in sex and girls. If you see them they see you. And you will see if they see you, you will not only walk around looking forward to next fap. There are countless books about this (childish books like "how to get laid") and you can even "fake it until you make it" and get countless girls in bed that way. Been there done that. I think there are allot of benefits of nofap but I don't believe in superpower.
the definition of superpower is different for everyone. being depressed for being have a happy day is at times a super power. everyone has different goals in life. some want to live in mansion, own helicopters and superbikes, sleep with a different model every week, party with ten thosand friends while some would rather live an isolated life with few friends in some village with hammock n river... some prefer to live in the suburbs with family and friends, while some want booze every hour. i think nofap helps a lot. but pmo isn't the cause of all problems in life(at least not in my life, i guess) so i think it'd be unfair to put all the responsibility of 'getting your dreams' on that organ between your legs.
Yeah man if anything PMO gave me the energy to direct into better use, such as building my life, communicating with people more. Actually, since I stayed away from PMO I'm not only feeling less stress, but I honestly speak in the present moment. I used to be anti-social, as In, if I was to see a person I would turn around. And when I would speak, I would think inside my head before saying anything, scared of being taken for a fool. I had little respect and confidence in myself. Now its like I wanna be more connective and less inside my head. I used to have shaky hands, but now they couldn't be more I wonder why doctors don't tell kids in this era how over-masturbation is a thing, with or without porn. I used to wank 2 times a day to simple nude pictures, but I was anti-social for most of my life in that time. Even as a kid I felt in my guts that masturbation is the issue somehow, but I never let go of that exciting time when I would hide from parents, open magazine and just wank one or two. Sexual energy is not only to create life, its the creation itself. In building one-self. Mind, body and soul. And it can be directed towards anything. I've been exercising a lot also. I feel I was anti-social for most of my life, low self-esteem would make me compare to people. At some point I took that as actual attraction while it was all jealousy, envy, admiration. I never had a male role-model, as my dad was a drunk. Still I felt weak. Now I feel something is changing. I have a better posture. I have more confidence that isn't been forced, and while I am a short guy 1,75cm I feel that my inner shadow of confidence is much taller that most above my heights I see walking with bad posture. Also I've been trying to work on minimizing my own ego, by stopping the idea of neglecting my body over the years and not listening to everything bad it tells me. My inner values are different, so I'm looking into positive things. I didn't suffer ED, but i watch porn for little over a decade and always wank to it, even if it was 10 minutes a day, it was 10 minutes too much and my brain registered that as sex. So if we calculate that by numbers of days and add FACT/ that I ejaculated each time I watched it, we had a problem. problem that I'm working in surpassing. Its not NoFap as much as its my willpower with all the energy that is making all this possible. It makes me build energy to use to better myself & love myself. That same energy which I will dedicate in sharing with my trusted partner. But only once I feel I am worthy of them, as much as they are worthy of me. Quote: To love someone, one have to love himself first.
