Objectifying Women

Yeah, I know how you feel. And all I can say is this:
It is going to get better eventually. Keep up your streak and you will see immense changes.
I think porn addiction correlates with all the other addictive behavior in someone (because dopamine rush is dopamine rush - it does not matter what exactly caused the rush). For example: I used to gamble, I used to drink a lot, I used to watch porn, I used to fap - but now I got rid of all these addictions, and I know that I do not want to go back.
Instead I focus on becoming the best possible me.
I work out 6 times a week. I read a lot. I meditate every day for 20 minutes.
And the best thing is, that I do all of this only for myself.
Sure, if someone notices positive changes it gives me a boost - but if no one notices anything, I don't mind.
What used to be addictive behavior is gone now - and I replaced it with disciplined behavior.
I hope this helped.
Good luck.

 

Even aside from porn, there are a LOT of ways that society subtly teaches us to not fully consider the complex lives of women.

I suggest seeking out some women to talk to about your problem of objectification. It might be hard to find someone informed and scholarly enough to critique and deconstruct all the things you never thought about, but also who is bother willing/open to patiently talk to you about it.

People might lambaste me for using the "F" word, but I find a lot of the articles on http://everydayfeminism.com to be written a way that is easily digestible for people new to certain deeper concepts.

another good, wide ranging resource is http://goodmenproject.com for thinking about all sorts of things.

 

Joke aside, I was the same. I just work on "removing the weeds from my garden", which means removing all the bad thoughts that come to my mind, one by one. Observe your thoughts, decide what is objectification, realize it, decide not to think that anymore. Also, you strongly need to consider that women are humans, not all of them like sex, not all of them do what you seen in the porn flicks. Quite a few of them need love and a little romance before having sex.

The biggest lie in porn is that all the girls seems to be always willing, all graduated from Kamasutra college, all will take care of business vigorously. With a smile. The porn flicks nowadays make you believe they like it rough, they all like it anal, etc...It's all stuff to fuel your fantasies...


When you walk down the street or at the mall and you objectify at every "features", it takes time, but when you realize that you objectify, it will go away. Stop fueling the thought.

 

Why are you calling yourself a pervert? There is nothing wrong with wanting sex. Half of sex is our own gratification (we want it to feel good). Women are beautiful. They have lady parts that arouse and stimulate us. You wish you to have access to those parts. So what? I do not believe that this is objectifying.

Porn on the other hand is different. These women are props on a stage. They are no different than the bed and the nightstand next to it. Their only purpose is to force you to wack-off and keep coming back for more. The props (I cannot get myself to call them actors) are likely getting paid to pull you into their abyss.

Relate to women based on common interests, discussion, having a fun time together and enjoying each other's company. In due course a relationship should blossom - which will eventually lead to sex. There is nothing wrong with viewing sex as a goal. Just do not make it your only goal.

Caution: Slapping a stranger's ass will likely wind you up on Probation and possibly on a Sex Registry. You appear to have recognized your error that you made in highschool.

 

This video clearly sums up objectification that comes from porn.

I hope it helps.