My Story (60+ days in)

A bit of background. I'm male and started tossing at around 11 or 12 (I was fapping before the word existed!). I had access to porn before that (dad couldn't find a decent hiding place), but didn't really use porn until I was in my 20s. Now I'm married and in my mid 40s.

My main reason for taking the challenge is that I derive almost no sensation from sex. Instead of a "warm apple pie" sensation, I just don't feel. Instead I get off from how the woman is getting off. The more it's working for her, the faster I finish. This has always been how sex was to me, even back when I lost my V at 18. No sensation, just excitement at the woman's pleasure. If the woman didn't get off, I couldn't (most of the time). I can't count the number of times I faked because I could sense she wasn't getting there and I was getting tired. Don't get me started on how uneventful oral sex was on me.

The problem is that when I've implied this lack of sensation to my friends, they don't understand it. When they'd complain about going a week or two without sex, I'd suggest they just take matters into their "own hand" and they'd say it's just not the same. To me it was. An orgasm was an orgasm, regardless of the source.

Then I discovered nofap and some of the sexual dysfunctions it associates with PMO and I began to think maybe I was missing this entire part of sex my entire life and that maybe it had to do with having masturbated for so many years. I'm not sure.

So I decided to take the nofap challenge. I guess you'd call it hardcore as I'm not looking at porn, not tossing off, not having sex. My hope is that by "rebooting", I get to experience what people seem to describe.

It's been over two months since I started nofap. Aside from the occasional sense of arousal, I haven't noticed much change in terms of how I feel. No "superpowers" seemed to have appeared.

Anyway, that's my story. Thanks for reading.

 

Well it's been over a month since I joined, putting me someplace north of 90 days in hard core mode. I can't say it's been too difficult. Being in my 40's probably has something to do with it. I imagine that if I was in my teens or twenties it would have been a more difficult endeavor.

That said, I haven't experienced much in terms of "powers". My confidence feels the same, people don't seem to treat me much different, I don't have more energy. Overall my nofap challenge has been a non-event in my life. It's not meant as a troll, but my experience hasn't led to any life-changing experiences.

On the downside, I developed a case of male candidiasis (aka a yeast infection) in my privates for the first time ever. I guess 30+ years of dry fapping rubbed the area free of the fungi and when I stopped the survivors made a comeback. Stupid evolution.

Ah well, I wish everyone luck in their endeavors and maybe if I keep going I'll post again after 120 days.

 

Mostly I just ignored any urges when they'd pop up. They never got that urgent to be more then mildly irritating.

When I decided to not masturbate I just stopped. And without fapping there wasn't any need to seek out any visual stimulation.

Honestly I thought it would be more difficult, but it's now 90+ days later I keep not doing it. Not much more then that.

My best advice. Keep busy. Having a family means I don't get a lot of alone time to get have time to fap.

Good luck.

 

It's been almost three more months of hard-core nofap challenge, so that puts me in the 180 day range. Yay...I think. I don't know. Wait, does watching Deadpool count against me? Probably not, since I didn't even consider fapping after seeing the movie. Not a lot to report. I can honestly say it hasn't been that difficult. I just stopped, porn, fapping, fantasizing. I just stopped and haven't really thought much about it other then occasionally being a bit anxious. Other then that, not much to say.

The only advise I can give is to just not masturbate. Make a conscious decision and stick to it.

Good luck.

 

I have no idea about the sensitivity. I guess you'd say I'm taking the super hard core challenge. I haven't had sex in almost 8 months (I am married after all). It's like when I was in college, just without the fapping .

 

WOW , it makes my Day 17 look a little poor, but I guess we all need to start somewhere. Well done mate, you are off to a great start. All the best.

 

I generally don't think about how long it's been, hence my fuzziness on dates and duration. Then it becomes I didn't have gotten any today instead of I haven't had an orgasm in 6 months or sex in 8.

Also realize I'm in my middle 40s. Life is a bit different then when I was in my teens and 20s, internally as well as externally, probably making the challenge a bit easier.

 

Well it's been a little under 8 months NoFap and 10 months no sex. Nothing new to report same as before. Occasionally I get randy, but nothing that bugs me that much. It was amusing at my annual checkup my doctor asked how was my sex life, he was surprised by my answer. He asked why...I said why not.

I'm not sure if I'm truly P-free. I did see Deadpool .

Anyway, that puts it at over 230 days since I last fapped. Yay?

Thomas

 

Well I kind of need my wife to want to participate before I can "ravish" her . More on that in my closing post.

 

This will be my last update post. I might reply to people.

I unofficially started the NoFap challenge in September of 2015. I can't put down an exact date since I sort of backed into it, realizing I hadn't tossed off in a bit, doing a bit of research on my lack of sensitivity, and discovering the NoFap challenge. I had decided to see if fapping had desensitized me to real sex and took up the challenge. As my prior posts indicate, I didn't experience any of the side benefits reported by fellow NoFapanaughts.

The other night my wife finally succumbed to my clumsy charms (I've never been willey) and with had sex after almost a year (she has her own issues ). And it was pretty much like before I started the challenge. Not a lot of sensation, though I did finish (something that isn't guaranteed for me) and relatively quickly once we got to penetration (10-ish minutes, rounding generously up). It was nice, but not mind-blowing. It was comforting, but not a "warm apple pie" experience. It was what sex has always been for me, friction then orgasm. No real sensation down there other than the orgasm, which is more of a release then a sense of pleasure.

It's not low-T, I've been tested for that. It's not my relationship as my wife is beautiful, I love her dearly, and we are incredibly close. No, my lack of sensation is just the way I'm apparently built, like the fact that I barely have a sense of smell or that I can pick up pretty much any instrument with a little practice (though I'll never master it). My lack of penile sensitivity is something that has always been a part of me and always will.

Or maybe I rubbed off all the nerve endings after 30+ years of fapping .

Looking back on my posts, I realize that they could be perceived as being down on the NoFap challenge. That wasn't my intent. I just wanted to express my experiences with the challenge. I apologize if they came across that way.

I don't know if I will toss off again. It just seems like to much effort for too little return. I'm not even sure I'll have sex again as I know now that my lack of sensation is not a result of fapping and I don't want to make my wife feel like she "has to". I'll cuddle up next to her and if it happens, it happens.

So good luck NoFappers. Your road ahead may be challenging, but if you take it one day at a time you will hit your goal.