Masturbated after 4 months and I felt so happy

if I relapsed, I know the consequences are that I am going to feel weak, guilty, and full of anxieties.. What is the reason for which people work hard in life if we lived in a world where not working hard has the same effect on ur mental state; happiness.. So don't respond with such a lame comment

 

Excuse me jack-ass, you dumb idiots are missing the dudes point. He says he doesn't feel guilt or bad about it and that is AWESOME. Support him and stop moaning and ruining his good spirit by terrorising him. *drops the mic*

 

I wanna see u at like 2 months, are u gonna fall in the reward trap? Probably, relapsing at any point after a month is uncalled for cuz urges have gone down a lot, but a major problem is falling in the reward trap.. "I've abstained for 3 months, I can reward myself with one time" they say to themselves.. And I was arguing rationally before u started attacking me with names.

 

Have a good day moron

 

Hahaha

 

Nice, all the best for future

 

Why do you discourage us, with your story that you don't feel bad after watching Porn und masturbate ?


Here are guys they struggling every day. THEY WAIT, THAT SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
We have to push ourselves, to the right way. We don't let us noodle from your fucked up experience.


Know something Larry. THIS IS NOT A SUCCESSFUL STORY!!!

 

This is not helpful

 

I think this delves into the issue of masturbation. If you want to MO every few months or even once a month after being rebooted, then I don't think it will hurt you at all. Each person has to make their own decision on this. After I'm rebooted and I have this under control, I can definitely see myself doing this, because I'm not in a sexual relationship yet. Therefore I might benefit from an MO once in a while. However other people don't want to MO ever again.

PMO is much different than doing MO once in a while. We all know that PMO is wrong, unhealthy, and should be stopped. I think there are different options with MO. I find a hard time believing that an MO every few months will hurt you. Again, other people may wish to never MO again. Each is fine as long as the MO doesn't become to frequent, because then it will escalate into PMO again. Thats why keeping it spaced out over a few months is important.

 

I agree with you totally -- he should be sad at his giving in to temptation.

ra·tion·al·ize (verb) -- justify, explain, explain away, account for, defend, vindicate, excuse; "he tried to rationalize his behavior"; to think about or describe something (such as bad behavior) in a way that explains it and makes it seem proper, more attractive, etc.

He was doing great!
He had 4 months of Success (behaviors and thoughts) via self effort and successful tactics!! He should "feel so happy" about his 4 months of effort and success -- not the 10 seconds of cloaked, deceptive euphoria.

The whole point of NoFap is summed up in their theme: "is the largest porn-recovery community website. We give you all the tools you need to quit porn and gain control over any compulsive sexual behaviors."

I admire larrystanke's 4 months of success, but I'm a Christian and God says LUST and masturbation are sins (Matt 5:28, Job 31:1-3 [disaster and calamity], 1 Corinthians 6:18). If you distance yourself from them God will bless you -- if you soak yourself in them you will get some harsh discipline [which I've experienced]. God rewards your effort. We're all human (temporary, finite, sin-nature, etc.) but if we apply some positive & persistent efforts [NoFap has many ideas] we can get rid of our dysfunctional/bad example behaviors.

 

This is pathetic guys, are you seriously all brainwashed? There is NOTHING wrong here. He should be applauded for his streak! I am really out of by the strange behaviour by people on his forum! Seriously GET A GRIP!

 

I have totally lost faith in nofap too my friend, and it's this forum that has single handedly caused my relapsed!

 

Hey mate.

I did almost the same thing as you did. Even after longer period of time. I was kind of ok with that.

Please consider this as only my insight .

I relapsed on Monday. I felt OK right after.

But few hours after I felt like I have not such a drive inside of me. People on the street were indifferent to me and I was to them. I was not used to this. Felt kind of weak.
Today it has been much better. I feel my strenght is building up again. You definitely know what I am talking about.

I got your point, I guess I have the same. Although we should stick with it, we should take it easy in our minds, otherwise it is a struglle, and we dont want it, right? Yes we want to be better, we want to step outside of our comfort zone (i hate that phrase.. )... i do these things all the time and telling noone. But the less we talk about that and the more we just work without wanting to have something as reward from someone.. the easier it is.

My advice! Be ok with that what happened, dont beat yourself up, keep going on your journey..it is worth it!

Stay cool and sexy

 

OK first of all, I want to say congratz to 4 months! That's quite the achievement mate! I think you're obviously doing great in your recovery to a normal life!
It's a great thing that someone can move on from a relapse(if I may call it that) and not be overly harsh with oneself, so long as they have built up the resistance not to fall back into old habits.
Now I would like to suggest that watching P is a moral issue, since it actually does effect our view on the person/s in the P. We objectify them, which in turn have a big risk of spilling over to people in general. And not to mention that the P industry is a very nasty one, which often does force or coerce people to do P. So watching P is then supporting indirectly all of the things mentioned, even though one might not be directly for it. However this might come out as BS if you don't care about moral issues(lol).
When it comes to MO without P, it is obviously everyones choice to make. The risk with your post however is that it might well give someone that is in the beginning of their recovery a somewhat weaker resolve to actually get out of that evil PMO cycle. No obviously that is their problem, right? Maybe, but maybe we also have a responsibility here not to tempt our new or harder struggling friends. Then again it might still come out as BS if you don't care for people here.
Just remember what type of website/forum this is, and remember that what you say does have effect on people.

Great achievement anyway! You're fierce mate.

GBY,
Patric

 

Yeah, that's true. It is a battle within ourselves. We want to be healthy, normal, responsible human beings. No one else can make us become that. But I wonder if you did it all by yourself, really? You never used this website to get inspiration? You never used the tips that was given? You never enjoyed support from anyone here?
You're indeed Iron Man if you made it by yourself, came up with different methods on your own and so on. Respect to you in that case!
However if you did make use of this website, I suggest that you shouldn't judge people that does and is still using it. If you feel self-sufficient, why stay? If you like it here, please don't come with that kind of comments. You make it seem contemptible to need support from others. Maybe you never did. But obviously not all are as strong as you mate.
Please don't be so patronizing against us weaklings, it's not helping, unfortunately. :/

GBY,
Patric

 

Ok Larry tell me, how I can be mentally strong ?

I will beat your 4 month.