When in doubt...

Lol, you know the repercussions of treating everyone as your best friend?
People think you are a sociopath, and to some extent creepy.
Seems like you might have been abstaining from PMO for a while. Good for you.

 

I forgot where I read it but I remember the quote going like this, "Don't mistake my kindness as a weakness."
Some people in this world are mindless, rude zombies and don't necessarily deserve my love lol

 

Although it sounds really poetic and good to treat everyone as your best friend, truth is most people cannot be treated like that because a best friend truly cares about you, about your relationship and if needed will tell you straight in the face the cold truth. Most people don't care about you, they only care about themselves and look interested in you because you might be a good gossip subject or choose to hurt you whenever they can.

I don't say all these as a philosophy, I lived like that. Tried to treat everyone as my best friend and lots of people ended up hurting me or spreading gossip so I decided that I'm going to have a few really good friends in my trust zone and the rest are just people I socialize with

 

For the reasons you listed in your first paragraph, I rarely even bother socializing with people. Most people either see others as opportunities to be exploited or they see them as non-existent and a burden to themselves. I blame the garbage we see on TV these days. What's the predominant theme? It's always people engaging in biting sarcasm, general rudeness, and trying to take advantage of other people. TV sure has come a long way since Leave It To Beaver, hasn't it? A long way down, that is.

 

Really like what you said here, dude.

 

Yeah.. I saw that too. I'm still living with my parents and younger brothers since i am 19 yo and I noticed this thing about TV too.. My mom and sister like to look at reality TV, some shows about people hooking up randomly and stupid things like that.. People in there argue a whole lot and noticed the fact that we around the house argue more too... What you see in most of your time is what you become, when people will understand that the world will change. And it works from pmo to watching stupid TV series or the news for that matter..

 

You're very wise for your age.

 

Well, thanks ).. I started pmo at quite an early age(13) and got socially anxious because of it.. That made me want to study people's behavior, body language and relationships quite a lot thinking that the social anxiety would go away but it didn't because I was still pmoing and last month I decided that it's time to quit this thing too once and for all

 

You're doing very well in terms of quitting the PMO. 9.5 days is great so far, so keep it up!
The fact that you're 19 and can see how stupid TV has become is encouraging to me. Whenever I talk to many adults in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s about the idiotic programming coming out of the box, they look at me as if I have three heads. I think this is proof positive that too much TV watching makes people stupid. Apparently, television flicker rates put the brain of the watcher into an alpha wave pattern which makes people very suggestible. With all the rubbish on TV now, no wonder people act like animals.

 

Yeah. I read about the effects of tv to the human brain and found out how easily I could be manipulated.. I was a TV fan myself until about 2 years ago. Now I barely watch it.. Only when I have to but I mostly avoid it.. I heard a fact from a really smart guy I know.. I don't know if the fact is true because I couldn't verify it anywhere yet.. He told me that the conscious part of our brain is bombarded with so much information when we watch TV that after 6 minutes out subconscious door opens up to store the information and otherwise we would pass out because of the flood of information.. I think this applies to movies and other things too and I because very critical to what I allow myself to see.. I mostly like to read

 

Although I haven't heard proof of that thesis, it wouldn't surprise me. When I look around me and see just about everyone dressing alike, using the same mannerisms, buying the same fad products, and speaking using the same phrases and catch-words, that tells me all I need to know about how pernicious TV is

 

I agree @Lone_Wolf, there is ample evidence of how TV shapes people enslaved to it. Out of necessity, I obtained a TV license on the 1st September (after seven years without watching it). Notwithstanding, I have a strong dislike for it still.

 

A license for what, @IGY?

 

Most of the time I struggle with some sort of social anxiety that literally kills me.. I have about 3 best friends with who I can be my true self and not wear any masks around,actually ,they are the only people that know about my struggle with masturbation and nofap challenge. I don't hide anything around them but with the rest is a little bit different in the way that it's more difficult for me to find something interesting to talk about.. Especially girls, I'm 19 years old and girls are a really gray topic for me still because of this whole social anxiety thing that I suspect has to do with masturbation.. I've been on a hard reset for the past 11 days and I can literally feel that I'm getting better so I think there's still some hope for me

 

Well, I know there's hope for you man, you're gonna be fine and congratulations for your achievement til' now.

 

TV license. A license of £145.50 is required annually to watch TV in the UK.

 

Perhaps this is more clearly expressed by Jesus' advice, "do to others as you would like them to do to you". Simple.