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Lost attraction to Women! IS that normal

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by barzo, Dec 10, 2016.

  1. barzo

    barzo Fapstronaut

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    Hi Friends

    2016 has been extraordinarily difficult for me. Went through financial & personal difficulties and every time I found myself watching porn and masturbating. This helped me to forget the reality and gave me delusional joy. It came to the situation where I was masturbating 6-7 times a day, not even going out not willing to do anything but watching porn.

    At this stage I have to say, I have been watching porn in the last 14 - 15 years or so (I am 29). It only got worse and worse. Only recently I have noticed my addiction. I have started rebooting last week. After the third day I relapsed and had been PMO ing every single day until today. Even in the 3 days that I didnt have an O I did PM. Proud of myself though, I am 100% clean today and will try my best to extend it FOREVER!!

    I just came from a party (living in the UK its 3.20am now). Normally I was very smooth with women, had dozens of one night stands etc. I used to got excited by the attractive women in the bars and clubs, had random erections etc. Today I noticed that although I was surrounded by attractive women, I didn't find anyone attractive at all, no willpower to talk to them etc. Also bear in mind it was my first night out in 3-4 months.

    My question is after extreme porn addiction (I was pmo ing 4-5 times a day at least in the last 3-4 months) is feeling NOT attracted to beautiful women something normal? If I completely stop PMO ing would it sort itself out within time?

    Any advice is much appreciated!

    Thanks
     
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  2. Wanderer90

    Wanderer90 Fapstronaut

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    Yes. It's called "flatlining."
     
  3. 2016 is an difficult year for me, too. I discovered NoFap on Reddit, looking for help and still masturbating & relapsing to this day. I still think I'm a brainless zombie since. :(
     
  4. Longtime27

    Longtime27 Fapstronaut

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    Also 29 mate, but yep you're going through one of the main symptoms of flat lining. I'm experiencing it also currently.

    Enough time away from porn will give you the best chance of getting that mojo back ;-)
     
  5. GradBeo

    GradBeo Fapstronaut

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    Man I appreciate your post. I have the same issue.

    I don't at all get aroused with gorgeous women around me. That thing down there is dead to me, it won't do anything.

    I also get told it's flatlining and it's temporary. I do believe these messages.

    Hope you have faith to continue! Good luck.
     
  6. YellowDiamond

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    Hey Barso. I think you need to chill. Stay with NoFap as long as possible. If you relapse just go back to no pmo. Just look forward to the day you find yourself in the arms of a beautiful woman. Just let it come naturally. The fact you don't get all excited at first glance of a woman just means, perhaps you are waiting for someone worthwhile.
     
  7. BenBozonian

    BenBozonian Fapstronaut

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    You gotta stick with NoFap for the long haul. There will be up and downs, downs and more downs but at the end more ups than downs!
     
  8. it'll take a few years I would imagine. but the good news is, from personal experience, you will get back 'to normal'
     
  9. things will get back to normal for you, after a time of NoFap. after you quit p things will get better, then you quit all p substitutes. relapsing is part of the process.
     
  10. I Free I

    I Free I Guest

    In my opinion, you are probably going through a flatline. Flatlines happen to people all the time... sometimes more than others. Accept it for what it is and focus on achieving your goals on NoFap ! It may be "winning" the battle but it has not "won" the war ! [​IMG]
     
  11. Timber Maniac

    Timber Maniac Fapstronaut

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    Also a new guy here and I was warned about flatlines in my intro thread. Can someone tell me what the general timeline is for my flatline to occur? I am currently 3 days in. Will there be multiple flatlines? How long do flatlines generally last?
     
  12. barzo

    barzo Fapstronaut

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    With all honesty I am on day 8 (longest period in my life) and I am extremely horny, finding women attractive & sexy again with occasional boners.. I think my body fights back quickly
     
  13. Sans_Fear

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    Maybe the objectification is over, possibly.
     

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