I am 51 YO form Croatia. It was only when I found NoFap to realize that I was addicted to pornography. Since the beginning of this year, I am trying to get rid of this addiction. There is little progress, and now I decided to join this community and try to make more progress with the help of people. Although I am over 50, I do not notice any signs of decreasing libido or reduce the need for masturbation and pornography. I am married and have children, but also struggle with unwanted SSA porn.
Hey buddy, welcome! I've got the same problem. Married, kids, but also struggle with SSA. Am making progress clearing through the clutter in my head after more than a month of no PMO. Looking forward to hearing more of your story.
Hi, NYCmwm, thank you very much for giving me this post, I appreciate it very much. Today is my 16th day of staying celan. Since this time I was very successful last 2 weeks, I avoided also coming to nofap because some talks could be my triggers for porn flashes (fantasies). My first tries (a year ago, I relapsed several times after approximately after a month, I did noc count) was horrible. From the first day, I have to struggle with my fantasy: I felt like whatever I tried to think about, I always finished in some kind of porn fantasy. Besides, in afternoon when I usually take a nap and before sleep I had problems because my dick become hard for about half hour or more and I felt pain all over it... I am sure many guys here are familiar with all that. Then, little by little, I start to surf on underwear pages... and suddenly finish at porn again. It was easier not to M than not to P (for me) but connections between P and M is very tightly. However, this was not a solution because P made me aroused, and without ejaculation, there was no relief. Well, I strongly decided to try this time in different way. First, I logon to NoFap and confess my condition. Then I promise to myself that whenever I will be tempted, first thing I will do will be to go to NoFap. As I mentioned, this time happened something beautifully to me. First 7 days I was finally able to control my thoughts: whenever something possible could lead to P, I succeeded count to 10 and then change my thoughts to something else. Even this time I had no problem with pain in my dick (I had normal morning erection without this unpleasant pain which happened as I try to take a nap or in evening before sleep). Compare to most guys here, I have no ED, contrary my brain wanto to trick me to PMO with unwanted erections. Besides, last days, when I am finished with peeing, when I squeezed bladder at the end, some precum came out. This sticky transparent fluid caused pain in my penis and my penis stay hard or semi hard sometimes 15 minutes, sometimes over hour. That makes me nervous and even uncomfortable, especially in office. In addition, of course, a voice in my head tell me the easiest solution would be M. Well, it is funny, though I think it is not very common. Today is my 16th day that I am clean from PMO. Yes!!! And this time with something compeltly different: without unwonted flashes i.e. fantasies whic I am not able to controle. So if I have feeling that something here could trigger for unwanted habits, I run away...
Great job on staying away from P. Sorry to hear about your unwanted erections. Is that problem getting better now? I've been taking cold showers everyday. I wonder if that might work for you.
Thx, for advice, but I think it is not just proper way for me. Using cold shower is not helping, and I'v got inflammation of the urethra last time so I must avoid it. Besides, I must shower quickly because I have tendency, you know, for touch it or with shower... Shower is tempting me so I try to do it as quickly as possible. It is the beast from my inner brain that make unwanted erections and it is getting harder (hm, interesting double meaning of "harder") last days but I'll try to ignore it as long as possible. My power of will is still high.
The key will be self control and self discipline. Having en erection does not have to mean masturbation. When in the shower or anytime you are naked and you have an erection, allow it to be there, ignore it and continue doing what you are doing, whether that is bathing or changing chothes. You may not be strong enough at this moment to do that easily but that is there you need to work towards because we are men, erections WILL occur. They cannot be avoided. What can be avoided is how you behave when they occur.
Mates, I continued my story in my journal here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/back-to-freedom-–-for-good-this-time.83597/
