Hi. I discovered NoFap when the challenge was mentioned on a documentary about the porn industry on TV last week. After a brief experimentation when I was 12, I decided to abstain from fapping. At 14 I started feeling the desire to fap, but resisted. About a month before I turned 18, I found myself fapping when I was lying in bed in a sort of half-awake, half-asleep state, which shocked me. This led me to start intentionally fapping again but I vowed to myself I would quit again before turning 18. That was in 2001, and I am still doing it now in the year that I will turn 31. Every birthday, every New Year I vow that I will quit but I still keep going. Over the last 13 years I have fapped over famous women, videos of women masturbating on masturbation porn sites (including one site that masquerades as a "masturbation education" site but is really just porn) and over women that I have known personally. I am really glad to have found this site. My challenge is to go for the next 40 days without PMO, which will take me to the end of June. If I succeed I will have gone an entire calendar month without fapping for the first time since 2001.
I relapsed after 8 days. I feel I probably set too ambitious a target. As soon as I had finished I couldn't get the lyrics of that song by Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush: "Don't Give Up" out of my head. I intend to take their advice (not to give up my attempt to quit I mean)
Before I found NoFap, I had tried to quit fapping quite a few times. Actually I keep trying 24X7 but in vain. But those "few times" that i just mentioned were very deliberate efforts that failed. My longest fapstinence streak lasted for somwhere around 10 to 11 days... Usually after an 8 day streak the urge for PMO gets soooo strong, that it feels impossible to resist. But not anymore. This my first post on this website and i have read those success stories. I've decided to do a 90 day HARD MODE. No Relapse, No Edging is my goal. May we succeed in our endeavours..
It was, perhaps, too ambitious. I prefer to set my goal at 7 day increments. Yesterday, I went back to my counter and altered my goal to 14 days. For a goal to work FOR you, it has to push you outside of your comfort zone, but it has to be achievable. Whereas you may have felt somewhat crushed an hour ago, 8 days is a very good opening effort. So, what happened. It is anonymous here, why not say something about how the urge came and how one thing led to another. No doubt there are many lessons to be learnt.
You sound very determined: 90 day HARD MODE. No Relapse, No Edging is my goal. A few have achieved that in one go without any set backs. But most of us have found that breaking that goal down into smaller portions of time has helped us tremendously. Click on my counter and set one up for yourself.
I was about to get out of the bath when suddenly an occasion when I was in an intimate situation with a woman a number of years back popped into my head. I now realise the appropriate course of action would be to get some clothes on... and quickly. I have now set a more realistic target of 14 days. I think my longest period in the past has been about 10 days, so 4 days more is a lot more reasonable than trying to go 4 times as long as ever before.
Got my Counter, thanks for telling me about it. I'll set up smaller goals if i fail this 100 day Hard Mode. Lets see.
what constitutes 'hard mode'? No porn or masturbating i guess, but what else. Is it complete abstinence? ...sorry, i'm a newb.
Hey guys i abstained myself from masturbating for 5 days 6 hours before i gave in. I think the reason was i didn't do anything productive today.However when i realized the urge was getting into me i tried to do something productive but failed to concentrate. I even tried meditating but that too was in vain. I'm feeling a bit low. Please help!!
I am the originator of this thread. I have not posted anywhere on NoFap since July. I have not succeeded in quitting PMO....yet Today I am getting back on the wagon. After a session of PMO I asked myself the same question I have asked myself hundreds of time before: Haven't I got better things to do with my time, electricity for the computer and download allowance than using all of these for PMO? In the past I have made a big deal about going a whole calendar month without PMO (something that I last did in 2001). I now realise that giving so much weight to this means that if I PMO at the start of a month it makes me feel that there's no need to start a new quitting attempt until the 1st of the following month. NO LONGER. Quitting is a good idea whatever the date is!
