Ex was hooked on erotic manga?

About three months ago my girlfriend of four years broke up with me, she said one of her reasons were that she had felt for several months that she no longer liked me anymore. The entire time I've known her she's always been into manga, but she also became obsessed with yaoi and yuri (which are manga centered around homsexual love stories. My ex is a bisexual and is obsessed with anything homo/bisexual) She would read volumes and volumes and volumes of this shit, thanks to the internet she can just go on a website and find it all laid out there, back in the day you'd really have to look for this stuff at specialty shops, and have to buy the books which could add up. Not now, and she consumes it like a fat fuck consumes McDonald's.

She often posts memes on her Facebook about this shit, including one that said "Yaoi - for when your real boyfriend isn't romantic enough." Many memes she posts have a tongue in cheek way of saying how and manga boys are better than real ones, and one time she posted one in which a manga drawn couple are hanging out, the girl reading a book, and the boy asked why she spends so much time reading those books instead of talking to real people, and the female character states, "Because real boys don't hurt me."

I know they're just memes, but they do express an attitude. When she broke up with me, she said she needed time alone to work on herself, and would not be dating for a while. A month later she started "going out" with a guy on the internet, who actually visited her. She broke up with him so she "wouldn't hurt him anymore" and started trying to find someone else... on the internet as well.

What hurts me about this is the fact that it's almost like she's looking for someone to romantically fulfill her, and quickly because she's gotta get her fix. Towards the last year of our relationship I feel like no matter what I did for her, it wasn't enough. Like she couldn't appreciate the romance in the little things, but I can't be like the characters in her manga and anime. I'm not written and edited to woo a whole audience, I can't provide the tension that's found in the new relationships that romance stories revolve around. I'm a human being, I have ups, downs, I have to work a job that drains me, I'm confused about where I'm going in life, I struggle with depression, I can't constantly be a romantically fulfilling individual at all times. True love sees someone's flaws, accepts them, and loves no matter what.

This reminds me of an internet comic called "the problem with porn and Disney." There was a little boy and girl with their backs to each other, the girl says "when will I ever find my perfect Prince Charming?" and the boy said, "When will I ever find my insatiable cum slut?" Instead of looking for someone to fulfill some fantasy image, they should turn around and talk to each other.

We all know the damaging effects pornography can have on our relationships, and many of us have experience with it. But has anyone experienced being with a girl obsessed with romance novels, films, manga, etc? Just in general feeling their obsession with a fantasy world negatively impacted their relationship? My ex used to love watching Disney movies as well, and she was 20. She would also role play on the internet, that is where you type out actions and form sort of a continuing story like: *walks over to you and whispers in your ear* This is a complete waste of time. *walks away and gets a life* Yeah, in her 20s doing that with a bunch of anime nerds she calls friends but never met, I did that when I was 12 but I have a life now...

 

I actually have watched Don Jon, a few times. I didn't make the connection before though, wow. Thanks.