Stuck Emotions

Good point. In fact it's the relapse itself that is telling you, there is a ton of accumulated emotions in your bones, not to mention the sexual emotion itself, which is most of the time surpressed. You shall not escape a trigger by surpessing your emotions.

Don't expect anyone here to be a shiny source of wisdom and harmony, who can tell you a distinct solution that fits to you. This is frustrating, but the truth. I myself are in the same position like you, so I can only share some ideas. The idea is, that emotions are created by thoughts.
This is nothing bad in general. An there are no bad thoughts or bad emotions per se. The difficulty is to appreciate them, because most of the time I am in a situation, where I want to feel these emotions, but they don't come up to my awareness. This is because I unlearnd to appreciate feeling something.

The frustration I guess you get, when you read this stuff, and percieve, that you are still at the same point of progress as before, this frustration is also base on emotion. I hope you feel that too, because I feel it. So at this point of reading, do something differently: stop reading and feel the emotion behind your frustration.

 

I'm researching emotions at the moment with a book that has changed my life. I've managed to clear stuck emotions from sexual abuse a decade ago, and the death of a family member over two decades ago.

To clear stuck emotions you need to be able to recognise which emotions they are, and what they're trying to tell you.

There's a chapter in this book called 'raft building', which lists about five different exercises to help you sort out your emotions. I did all five in one hit, four times, over a couple of months, to clear repressed emotions to the point where I moved to a state of forgiveness for the guy who abused me. It was painful and amazing.

The book itself is not an easy read. I reckon guys especially would find it rambling and not following a logical sequence. But the information is organised by emotion: what the emotion means, what action you need to take to manage it.

Maybe there's stuff on her blog so you don't have to buy anything - although i did a search for 'stuck emotions' and 'clearing emotions' and couldn't find anything.

Book: The language of emotions
Blog: karlamclaren.com/blog/ (look at the tags for anything useful)

(You might also find this stuff airy fairy new agey hippie if you're not already open to that kind of thing, but i think there is some neuro-science behind it)