I'm asking because my husband doesn't think he has suffered negatively by watching porn. Yea, he had a bit of ED when he watched it 1-2 times a day a year ago when I first found out but in the most recent past [a month or so] he would only PMO once every few days. I feel like by bringing up this addiction now vs 20 years from now I saved him from other issues he would be having. So, what are your negative experiences because of porn after decades..
Well I haven't been watching porn for decades but I've been watching porn for 6years (currently on a 55 day streak) and I would PMO so much that my penis hurt bad and I would just keep doing it, also I didn't like that after I Orgasm I would feel bad and so depressed afterward. Also I recently found out it can make a person more socially awkward(something I desperatly wanted to improve on) which is so true. If he doesn't think its bad for him ask him to do the 90 day challenge at least, lets see if he can live without it, youll get the results either way(fails or succeeds).Doesn't hurt him to try right?
He is trying to quit and is having a hard time somedays. He isn't careful though. He isolates himself when he is at lunch even though he's already relapsed once from not being able to stay in control.
Does he have an account on here? If he does tell him to get on daily so he can avoid a relapse or avoid an urge. That's what has helped me ive been PMO free for 55 days now What you can try doing is helping him with that isolation, which is a definite relapse trigger in my opinion. It sounds like he isn't taking the NoFap challenge that serious when you say "He isn't careful though", wait a minute are you a woman on the NoFap challenge or are you on NoFap for him? I'm confused now. Anyway my advice to him is to make an account and get on on the daily and talk to the other guys who have aknowledged their problem because your husband might be in the denial stage.
Escalation to material that is extreme hardcore and eventually fetish. Objectification of everyone you're around because the porn brain won't shut off. Lack of ability to respond with sexual interest to irl sex experiences due to aforementioned escalation and irl experiences not being able to measure up to your hardcore conditioning. A few of many things that happen...
He has an account on here and he comments on people's posts to help them [though I think he's the one that needs the help], he hasn't researched enough to be knowledgeable about what to avoid or tips for success. I don't think he takes it that serious just yet, I think he is doing it to appease me and keep us together. He is doing the NoFap challenge. I'm just here for the SO forum and gaining more knowledge about the addiction. He likes porn and doesnt think the things people have issues with on here ever would've happened to him and its hard to explain that maybe because I found out about this sooner than later we dodged a bullet. His excuse is, he only looks at porn for 15-20 mins, once every few days. He doesnt watch it for hours or every day, but even though his frequency isnt as long as others he still has a struggle every day to not slip up and relapse. =/
probably. he isn't an unreasonable person but if it has to do with something he wants or doesn't want to give up he isn't easily influenced. even if it makes sense.
Look he has you his woman, but he still looks at porn. I don't want to get too personal with people I don't know but something is up with this picture wouldn't you agree? All I can say is Addictions are "cunning, baffling, and powerful". Hey he stopped from doing it daily to just a few days, thats a good thing though, can't forget about the positives, hopefully in time this dude will have it under control, I too PMO'd about 2-3 times a day, but with practice and dedication this PMO habit can be controlled, the people on here with 90+ days are an example of that, it just takes time.
It numbed me to joy, love, and happiness... I found myself often isolating in my cave instead of socializing just to watch porn.. I became addicted at an early age in my life and it grew into a fetish which nearly consumed my life and destroyed my self-esteem. Quitting porn has been the most rewarding and yet most challenging experience I've ever had to take part in. It challenges every bit of a mans will-power and determination to better himself. If one recognizes there is a problem and cannot consciously choose a healthier option, it's an addiction. The key here is to RECOGNIZE it is a problem. Otherwise you will continue to live in denial. A dangerous place to be...
I quit, because I realized how much control my addiction had over me and how negatively it impacted aspects of my life important to me, like my relationship with my wife and kids, my sexuality, my performance at work. Also, after the first few weeks without P I realized how sad and depressing I find the whole concept. Haven't looked back so far (224 days).
I quit porn because it desensitized me to the point that I couldn't get it up for my wife anymore (PIED). I also desensitized myself to regular sexual situations and started needing to watch more and more extreme genres of porn that don't reflect my sexuality. It wasn't until I learned that my excessive use of porn was causing this that I knew I had to quit. And it wasn't until I learned even more about it that I realized I was addicted.
