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Welcome! Your doing really well, keep going.

 

Hey man, as a teenager I would like to simply say that you inspire me. You have chosen to quit PMO not just for your own benefit but mainly for the benefit of your wife, I honestly don't think that anything is much more honorable than that. You are sturdy and steadfast and put others before yourself; even when times get extremely tough. Day #11 may be off to a rough start, but that's ok, bring it home and show your wife that you are not afraid to become the best version of yourself... for her. If you let the semen fill you, it shall travel to your brain and nourish you, it is the very essence of the male life force. You will experience elevated mood, cutting-edge mental strength and a cocktail of testosterone and manly aggression burning in your gut. You will become so handsome and so desirable that it will not be you trying to initiate sex, it will be her! She will beg to sleep with you and to show you off to the world! The way you selflessly put others before yourself has really inspired me and I believe you are destined for great things

 

Wow! This is absolutely spot on! I'm on day 19 and this just inspired me to continue on. Very well said

 

Stick to it! The victory will belong to you.

 

It will take time. This process may reveal pain and anxiety in you wife that she wasn't even aware of. Keep the lines of communication open. Let her know your committed to this because you want to improve your relationship.

Your doing a great thing, don't give up.

 

Congratulations on your current progress. One of the wisest choices you can make is to simply ask your wife what she wants.
You said you gave up P and M thinking that's what she wanted. I doubt she wanted you to be watching porn and masturbating in the first place so giving up those things weren't actually adding to your marriage, it was only getting your marriage to where it should have been originally. Thus you wanting sex after having sobriety was doing you a favor and probably not her.

If she feels unattractive, that's an issue where you have to show her that she is attractive. Would your wife chose porn over you, would that not change how you saw yourself? If she gave it up would you automatically feel as though you measured up or would you feel inadequate? It's a good chance she feels as a woman unattractive since you chose porn over her, even though she may appreciate your honesty of revealing to her your PMO addiction. There is a repair process that must go along with your sobriety. It's a process that takes time.

You can do it but you must be willing to place the effort into mending your relationship with you wife.

 

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