The first 3 months of my new life

Hi,

(my post is really long, if you only want to read the results -> last section)

I had the nice surprise to notice that my counter had finally reached 100% of achievement, here is my story:

First of all, I must admit that one of my reasons for posting here is that I am proud of what I have accomplished and want to be recognized for what I've done. Yeah, that's selfish, I know...
The second reason is that I've relied a lot on those of you that already managed to do it when I was looking for answer. I guess it is my turn to answer the questions.



Hard Mode against ED

This challenge is a fight against you, against your brain and your body. My solution was to print deep deep in my mind that masturbation wasn't an option.

I joined this forum exactly 3 months ago, at that time, I was like many of you: Terrible ED problem and no interest, but sexual, in women. My main motivation for this challenge was to fight against ED... I could not stand anymore to be 20 and suffer from this problem.

I don't know exactly what you call "hard mode", but I've done something probably more or less similar: No P, No M, No O, No TV, No film, No TV-show, No magazines, No Pictures, No Youtube, No Sex, No girlfriend, Cold Showers and Meditation. I think that's the only solution to reboot efficiently and quickly. Today, I miss none of those, I just consider to watch again some movies (only if I'm sure there is nothing sexual in it)


My 90 days adventure

The first week is amazing, you feel refreshed, have a lot of energy and a lot of motivation... and then comes the flatline! 70 days of flatline! There was simply nothing happening under my belt, my D was totally dead!

I really started to freak out... So many times I wanted to M just to check if there wasn't anything wrong. Day 80 I was really convinced I had to do something: I checked once again this amazing website "yourbrainonporn.com" => None of the stories was relating a flatline longer than 30days!
I tried to remember images from the porn I watched, but there was nothing I could remember, I somehow managed to forget everything in 80 days (or my brain simply refused to remember). I tried to fantasize on beautiful girls but I couldn't... I trained so hard my brain to fight against the excitation that nothing was happening. So I decided to M (Only once for 1 minute) by focusing only on the physical sensations.

This is possibly the only thing I had to do. I had won against all those terrible thoughts, and I just needed to wake up my organs. My morning woods are back! (only noticeable change). You cannot imagine how my confidence level suddenly jumped from 1 or 2 to 10. I truly recommend those facing extremely long flatlines to consider the option of M after more than 2 months of flatline.
Notice that in this challenge doubts can appear at any moment. I was seriously about to give up everything in day 80.

With this increase in confidence, my interaction with girls suddenly changed; I met two girls at a party on day 85 (yes two !). Nothing happened because I wanted to wait longer (and I now care about psychological aspects more than physical ones).

If I had written this story 24h ago, it wouldn't be in the "success story" section... But something happened:
I came here to fight against ED, and I won! I met a girl yesterday and we had sex. No there was no penetration. Forget that idea that sex = penetration. Real life is not a porn movie. She wasn't disposed anyway. For the first time in many years, I was hard... and it lasted, it lasted, ... You cannot imagine how good it feels.

One thing interesting to notice is that my morning woods don't last more than one minute in general. But this time I could stay hard. All you need is the stimulation of a woman, a real one!

Noticeable effects

Apart from what I already mentioned (ED, flatline, ...), the NoFap challenge involves a lot of other changes.

- Women are beautiful! I care a lot more what they do, how they behave, and less about their physical attributes. I have that new feeling that I can actually fall in love!

- Superpowers? Nah.. Forget that, that's only the first week. But what's under your belt will be back to normal, isn't it a superpower?

- It might seems strange, but I feel like I experienced a lot of new emotions. I used to be really "unaffected" (yup, I'm exaggerating a bit) by everything going on around me, and I now "feel" a lot more.

- I never had any problem of confidence... But I've reached a level of confidence which is simply incredible!

- Cold showers are amazing, I feel healthy, refreshed and am not tired in the morning.

- I realize how much time I could save by staying away from internet and avoiding to stay in my room. I got involved in a lot of projects, I manage to do a lot more every week: I live my life! Throw away your smart phone, and buy one of those good old nokia. You'll save money, and realize how much you loose by looking at that small screen.

- Exercise: I think it is really important to feel healthy if you want a good psychological equilibrium. It is also a great occasion to have fun and meet a lot of persons.



Only one week ago some of my friends that I hadn't seen for 4-5 months came to visit me... They all noticed that I changed a lot, and they agreed to say that I changed for the better. That's all I which for you.

This challenge is now a life challenge. I'll never stop it, I got addicted!
Remember, you are investing in your future, keep going and your life will get better!

I which you all the best, you guys are amazing,

Thanks a lot for making that forum what it is,

JegErFransk


ps: Sorry for my terrible English, I'm not a native
ps2: How can it set my counter to 180 days without loosing my progress?

 

Thanks a lot guys! I set up my counter to 180 days!
I can still notice improvements after the 3 months challenge !

I advice to take cold showers right after you get up (only cold): Besides the fact it is healthy, it is very good for self-discipline and to get out of your comfort-zone. You feel awake and refreshed, ready for a long and active day!

JegErFransk

 

nononanisteren: Nei, jeg er Fransk, men jeg bor i Norge! Jeg skal til Denmark snart for å studere. Lykke til med NoFap!

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luige06: For the cold showers:
- it is healthy: you can search "health benefits of cold showers" on internet...
- ... and if it is not enough for you: I think it is a great source of motivation and discipline. It is exactly the same thing as making your bed in the morning. You wake up and the first thing you do is to accomplish something. It is a perfect beginning for your day! The problem with making your bed is that it is too easy (it is still a good thing though) whereas taking a cold shower is a greater challenge that brings you out of your comfort-zone.

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For the others: Thanks a lot, and good luck! You can make it guys!

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Things keep [slowly...] improving for me! For the last month it has been easier, and you might be interested in knowing why:
I have been on holidays for one month, and I had the great idea to go hiking during 4 weeks! Which means: away from internet/wifi, sharing a tent with your buddies and having an amazing time traveling with your friends. No way you can fap: the only moment I was by myself, I was taking cold showers in the rivers!
Going hiking/camping is a really cheap way to go on holidays with your friends and have a great time disconnected from everything! If you are still looking for good plans for your holidays, consider this option!

Good luck!

 

I failed.

I have been through 4.5months without PMO... and I destroyed all this...
It is just so stupid...

The worst thing is that I exactly know why it happened... I am sick which means no cold shower and no exercise and I am really bored because I am visiting my parents (I don't know anybody here).

My moral really is really low.. But guess what!? I am starting again!

NoFap is my new addiction!

This means two things for you:
First of all, if the challenge starts to be easy for you and you start to take it more as a habit than as a daily struggle... it doesn't mean that you can't fail! (I really which somebody had told me this before...)
Secondly, it means that I'll come here more often and try to answer your question since I can now say that I have experience with NoFap.

I will succeed again... and you will too!