I had a wet dream.

I don't know if I've ever seen a WET dream, even in my youth. I very rarely see even sexual dreams, and nowadays they tend to be as pathetic as yours. They don't feature urinals, though.

 

There's no reason to reset your timer. You cannot control your dreams unless you are some kind of an adept or master, lol.

And your body will expel any excess sperm in other ways, you wouldn't even know it was happening such as through your urine. A wet dream means your desires in your subconcious were acting out, not much can be done to prevent WD's other than long term daily meditation. Or else just be focused during your days and don't let your mind wander all the time. The less focused you are during your waking hours, the more likely you are to have a wet dream.

Let's see what the Swami says about WD's:

Wet dream and voluntary copulation — A vital difference

A sexual act shatters the nervous system. The whole nervous system is shaken or agitated during the act. There is excessive loss of energy. More energy is wasted during coition. But it is not so when emission occurs during the dreaming state. In a wet dream, it may be the outflow of the prostatic juice only. Even if there is loss of the vital fluid, there is not much draining. The actual essence does not come out during wet dreams. It is only the watery prostatic juice with a little semen that is discharged during nocturnal pollutions. When nocturnal emission takes place, the mind which was working in the inner astral body suddenly enters the physical body vehemently in an agitated condition. That is the reason why emission takes place suddenly.

Best of luck to you, and don't let WD's get you down. Eventually they will go away my friend the farther you get from PMO. Personally I don't start getting them until about 6 months clean, and they are always so draining if one does not cut off the ejaculation. The last WD I had I woke up and managed to avoid any ejaculation by pelvic control. It was a close call, but so relieved no semen was lost.

At least you didn't fail, a WD is not a failure!

 

Wet dreams are the worst, in my 103 day streak I believe I had about 6 wet dreams. For me it was always triggered by getting blue balls.

 

The proper term for blue balls is vasocongestion, and it should only possibly occur after you have been aroused or engaged in sexual activity without orgasm. It goes away in a few hours usually. One does not get 'blue balls' from simply being chaste for long periods of time. Stay active, really busy doing important awesome stuff. Meditate. Learn about transmutation and sublimation. Maybe you won't be thinking about your balls so much anymore.

Btw I almost had a WD last night but I woke up before a climax thankfully, and it was messed up. I remember someone was chasing me or I was chasing them and then a guy started humping this guy that fell down running lmao I'm heterosexual so it was really strange, I may have been humping a dude in my dream wtf?

 

When you get an urge, try to identify exaclty what the uncomfortable feeling is that is giving you the urge. When you are aware of the feeling, you can just accept the feeling and do something else. Think of it as your body testing you.

PS. I read the title in the voice of Martin Luther King lol

 

Bill Clinton probably wishes that he didn't orgasm when he received oral lol

Sorry for going off-topic, but it seems like no one actually answered your question, "how can I deal with urges better?"

If you're like me, this will be the most difficult week of your journey. If I were you, I would go on a jog as soon as you get an urge or anything active: lift weights, bike ride, push ups. And keep yourself around people. Unlike you're dream, I doubt you would actually masturbate in front of someone else. If it's at night when no one else is around and you get an urge, then sneak over to that girl's house who gave you oral. I've found that almost all of my urges now are for sex or oral instead of porn and masturbation. You should start seeing results soon just stick through this rough part.

Good luck!

Dragonslayer

 

Question, is it just me or are you guys implying it's okay to orgasm during just not while masturbating or looking at porn? I suppose that would make sense. But what if you aren't in a relationship and have a random hookup?

 

I don't understand why you guys feel like shit after a wet dream?

I had one 2 days ago, on day 11 of harmode. I felt great afterwards, It's like free relief without the guilt of masturbation or watching porn.

And it didn't affect my reboot at all.

 

Brainfit,
It's a difficult question that I think each individual can only really ask themselves and have to be completely honest with themselves. Here's what i believe:
I think that if you have a serious addiction to porn, it would be harmful to masturbate and orgasm while trying to overcome your urges of porn, because your still giving in to the desire and it'll make it alot harder to kick. I saw a video where a guys refers to it as a wound. You have to let it heal by leaving it the hell alone, every time you masturbate your picking at it; and when we look at porn and masturbate, BOOM we full blown broke the wound open again. (In our minds, referring to those neural pathways)
I think that we are all here though, mostly, because we are unable to kick the porn habit for good. Whether that be 10 days, 50 days, w/e.
However, I also believe that the ability to use sexual energy and masturbate can be a good thing when not done with any porn, however the tricky part is to not fantasize while doing it. Example: After the wound has healed, using sexual energy can be beneficial but only if we are not fantasizing about F**king. (Carnal lust and desire) If we have the feeling of arousal and can just FEEL it instead of pulling images in our head to jerk to, while keeping love in our mind, it can be beneficial. Then again there are groups that say no masturbating is the only way; I think it all depends on how you are using it. Like a computer, it can empower us and teach us alot, or destroy us with images of desire that are harmful..
Any thoughts on this?

 

14 days in hard mode - first try

i am waiting for the wet dream - really afraid that my balls will explode!

about 15 kilo cum in this balls this is going to be a giant mess.