what to do if you get a girls number?

Dude always first text before calling, its 21st century god damn.

 

Congrats on learning how to approach and pick up numbers well done! However, I can see from what you just said that you still have a lot of learning to do when it comes to turning phone numbers into dates. PlasticBoy is right its more convenient to text first time people are busy these days if you text she will respond when she gets a chance. Calling and then leaving a voicemail is so 90’s you just sound like a salesman no offence.

So let me get this straight. You call her the next day and she does not pick up. Then you leave her a voicemail which she does not respond to. Then you bombard her phone with a message saying that you want to go out with her? Sorry but this reeks of desperation you don’t need to be so demanding you got the phone number now be cool about it and take it easy.

Your texts sound way too formal you are not arranging a business meeting you are going out on a casual date there is no need for you to leave your name this is is not email its messaging be fun and short and to the point.

Look just take it easy and go with the flow. Have banter over text build rapport and then when you ask her out say “we” instead of “I”. So for example we should go to this cool place I know. Its better to say we so it sounds like a fun event for both of you as opposed to saying “I” which makes you sound desperate and needy like you are more interested in her than she is in you. It should be the other way around.

You could also do what most guys are too scared to do at first and ask her out over the phone. So say something like let’s talk about this on the phone I want to hear your voice or something. She’s more likely to say yes if you do it on the phone and you are calling her out too. She won’t want you to think that she is insecure or scared so she is more likely to pick up the phone.

 

My advice is this:
Just remember that she is a person too, regardless that she a girl. A lot of my friends focus too much on rating girls hotness, techniques for getting dates, techniques for talking to girls. It's WAY simpler than that. Just text her "hi" and begin to talk to her. Get to know her and if it feels right ask her out. Just go with the flow, NEVER try to force anything or plan anything. Just let it happen.

Also, do text first. Phone calls are great and much more personable, but a text is more convenient for her to get to and less smothering at outset of a relationship with someone. Also, wait a bit to ask her on a date. Talk to her first, just take your time. You got this bro!

 

I think you are far too focused on getting dates. Before you ask a girl out you need to build rapport with them. Whether that is over text or over the phone. And you need to realise that’s its highly likely that these girls are probably talking to other guys at the same time its rare to find someone who is exclusive and single these days there are far too many options available. You are probably not getting responses because you are just straight up asking them out once you get the number before you have even had a proper conversation. Picking up the phone number is only like 50% of it. The other 50% is you building rapport and creating a connection which leads to one of you setting up a date.

There are many ways you can do this I will just give you one example of how I do it. So you just picked up a phone number in real life, when you get back home send her a text and bring her back to that moment. What I mean by that is whatever conversation you had prior to the conversation continue it. For example, you were talking about food you could say something like “I can’t stop thinking about that amazing steak you said you had in that restaurant. This chicken dinner I’m having tonight just does not have the same mouth watering appeal to it”. And you never know you could use that topic as a way to set up a dinner date

Just make sure that you flirt and you are playful over text so that she can’t stop thinking about you. Then you will know when to bring up the topic of seeing her again.

 

I usually txt a girl "yooooo whtsuppp it's (enter name) from (enter place we met)"

Then we have a conversation, after that I just say "I wanna hangout with u tonight". She KNOWS in the back of her mind what I want.

 

What you are referring to is "bread crumbing" leading someone on without committing to doing anything. That's not how i do it . I said "Just make sure that you flirt and you are playful over text so that she can’t stop thinking about you." That IS escalating and showing intentions. I did not give you conversation examples for that leading to a hook up or date because i'm sure you can come up with your own. Good luck

 

Oh I figured you were in it for a relationship. If you're looking to hookup, you're right being straight forward is good. Just be classy about it

 

I suggest you give it a couple days before asking out a girl on a date. Text her a bit to get to know her a bit more and make her laugh. Then when you get the date that's when you make your move and start to flirt with her a bit.

 

At the start I sneak in some flirting, and I try to make her laugh at the start.