Im 22/m. I've been masturbating since I was 16 years old. Luckily for me it's been on and off since I didn't have full access to internet when I started, but the past 4 years have been intense. My highest can be masturbating 4 times a day with a minimum of 1. It never occurred to me to stop. I thought it was normal, just like sex, you lose your sperm either way so I didn't really know what the fuss was about. But this year, my life was just fucked up. Nothing seemed to be working: I couldn't live in the present, I was always thinking about the future; how I will sort everything out later, and kept promising myself that this will be the last time I masturbated but I failed. My longest NoFap streak has been 8 days. Just last week; I talked to myself, tried to analyse where my life was going. I've tried so many times to stop masturbating and I've used so many methods. So this time I've tried to do something original. I bought a bracelet. I made sure it was expensive so I view it as something of great value to me. I made a promise to that bracelet, that never will I cum again unless it's with a real person. The phrase "real person" made me feel strange. All this while I've been 'having sex with a screen'. Sounded almost worst than bestiality. Masturbating is good, but you feel shit about yourself after a minute, and it ruins the rest of your day. Now, every time I feel the urge to masturbate or watch porn. I look at my wrist, and 'renew my vows' and after I kiss my bracelet. It's been 6 days of NoFap and this time I know there is no going back. I know this is an unusual and probably dumb method. But if I should just let something ruin my life whiles I can do something about it, I will go to every length to eliminate that son of a bitch! Stay free.
Good for you! - Often finding your own original way turns out to work the best. Just one thing... everyone has different goals here but many deal with porn and masturbation seperately. In my case I've completely quit porn and am trying to fap less. It is working and I feel better. Don't be too hard on yourself if you fap once in a while ( but if you do... do it without the porn ). : )
I very much agree with your point. I will very much fail with your strategy however. I tried it initially going 4 days with no masturbation and relapsing for a fag and trying to take it from thee, the issue however was that I lost 'my power' after just a days relapse, it's very tempting to start the cycle all again. I am been hard on myself because I have been loose with myself for a long time. I have tried easier methods and failed, I feel this is my only option. But as you said, we are all different and we all can't follow one strategy, this is how I choose to deal with mine, and I'm glad your strategy is working for you also.
I referred to it as 'dumb' because it's a very weird approach, but yeah it's proving to be a great approach and I feel like I have something to live for and 'something' I can't disappoint.
you know what this might actually work now we something on which in some sort of way you have bet upon
Exactly, The bracelet is valuable and in some way represents my dignity and it will be hard for me to throw it away for something less valuable. I.e. Porn/masturbation
I think this is a very cool method, The vikings and Celts swore vowels on a bracelet too you know. If it worked a 1000 years ago why shouldn't it now? best of luck man!!
Very nice man! I know you could do every thing you want to! My four advice for you, from a person who already reach 100 days and now have started again: 1 - Don't permit any image and tought inside your mind! You have to exercise avoid them every time they try to came to you. Thing like this: the pmo doesn't start on porn or external images. The pmo first step is inside you, inside your permisive toughts. The pmo is like the final stage that begin very very before on your brain and heart. So avoid let you thing about it, exercise think another things imediatly, let your mind go to somewere like God, your mother, someone special to you, or something good. 2 - Do everything you can do to get away of this. PMO is a subtle virus. It hides itself behind other behaviors like lizeness and procrastination. What i did, thinking my life depends on it.: - Cut off my time on computer (it was very hard to me because i am 'system analyst'); - Don't spend time on social network; Forget it, and news portals; - Start to go out and walk 3-4 times per week, thirty minutes minimum; - Cold shower; - Clean house: wash disher, clean table, Folding clothes, every thing. - Bought a musical keyboard and start to play. - Sleep early, wake up early; - Cuttoff Sugar and Cofee. When you start to read about your brain, you will want to take off any extra stress or pressure upon it. 3- Fight against fantasy. Don't lie to your self. Your brain is a potencial and elastic machine that could trap you inside a hamster wheel. You have to be with two feets on Life, on reality, reality is what you want. You don't want nothing that get you out of True, out of real life. 4- All have been won. There is a point that you understand, inside your heart, as truth, that all have been won. All is done. You have to rest and be confident that the victory is with you. So at this point you will not fight battles that are already finished. Because there will no reason for that. All have been won. So you rest, will forget it, and move on. Just live your life freely. There is two quotes that helped me a lot, get this to your life: "The fool do tomorrow what the wise do now"; "Be loyal in small things, that you will be loyal on greater things to";
