Hello! I'm more or less 180 days free. Last days are difficult for me because of my hornisess. I met a nice girl and I think she is trying to pick me up. Two days ago I took her home and I offered her to go on weekend somewhere and she agreed! I was really horny last days, had strobg erection and compulsive thoughts about her body and the weekend. I got a question do You think its true libido or fake? I had pied for sure watched porn for 15-17 years... What do You think I should do on this weekend? Try to have vagina sex or only kissing massaging herbody and make her happy? Im a bit nervous...
I think do it man.This is what we are suppose to do !Real sex but don't be a pervert.meet her on weekend and enjoy with her.your 6 months of patience is paying you back so go and have sex.
Yeah but I still dont know if its true libido or just my imagination, my mind is tricking me and did my erections...Im a bit affraid that when I see her completely naked I will not have erection or will not be hard to have real sex...
You're overthinking everything, it seems more like if you don't get an erection it will be because you're nervous and not because of PIED. If you're feeling horny around her take this as a good sign that you're healing. Go and see her. Relax and take it easy
I know whats main problem... Im affraid that I will be rejected... my mind is telling me "that girl may has every man on that world" "Youre not too smart for her" "She doesnt want sex with You" and so other...
If so wants to go out with you she is definitely interested man. Women get horny too, and you don't need to be the best guy in the world.. Just have fun and stay in the moment.. Shes is not going to care if you're smart, she is just going to care how you make her feel. Just have a good time and see what happens, I wouldn't even think about having sex too much, if the moment is right then the moment is right, ya know?
With first try you might get rejected. Girls are ussualy comfortable having sex on third date after you have kissed a lot on a second date. More than 3 dates these days without sex and people start to lose interest, start to doubt if you really like them.
I mean I know that girl more or less 2 years! We met maybe 20times every 2-3 weeks and sometimes I pick her up to home from work. When we are alone my confidence is very high but we are joking a lot and not talking on relationship or other things.
Im affraid about chacer effect also... When everything will be ok and I go for O with her I can activate old neurotic pathway in my brain and delete my half year reboot to day 0... then go back to porn... Now Im aroused few times a day when my mind is writing scenarios in bed with her...
Wow, is that really the world we live in? Ok, for "casual sex" I can understand this, but not for anything which involves any sort of real feelings. I want to show how much I like a woman by taking it slowly. You can jump into the bed with everyone, nothing special about that. A person who will take patience as a sign of uninterest has some serious self-esteem issues, I'd guess. With my previous girlfriend I had sex for the first time one month into the relationship, which was about two months after our first date, and it had all been just right that way. You don't have to have sex yet if you feel uncomfortable about it @Mariano. You can even talk about your issues with her, tell her about NoFap and everything, and if it's about more than fucking around, I am sure she will understand and appreciate it. You can take it slowly. It's also ok to do some petting for a few nights to get comfortable with the other person's body, before you finally start with the whole thing. If it's only about sex, you might want to reconsider your views on casual sex as a whole. If the thought gives you this much anxiety, it might be better to go for sex in a relationship only. Listen to your gut feeling. Don't have sex just because the advertisements are telling you to do so. Don't overthink it, don't worry about PIED and don't worry about the chaser effect. For now you have to accept that you simply don't know how your body will react after your abstinence. You don't know it, and there is no other option than to just let it come. Be stoic about it.
This is not easy but can be overcomed too just like porn. I been chatting with this girl who told me things that made me think and fantazise about her. Sitting at pc was the hardest but cold showers folowed by few hours walk made it really bearable and helped switch off from these thoughts.
I know this will sound corny, but do what feels right for you, do what your heart and intuition really wants and not just your mind and your dick. If you follow your dick and mind (ego) you won't go far in life, follow your heart/intuition and you will have a fulfilling long-term happiness and joy.
Ur a lucky guy! Enjoy the time with her. Since you are on nofap you may have more urge to make her happy. Hope you both can have great time together.
From my experience, if you are more than 60 days free of PMO your are ready for the real deal, so give it a go.
