My wife's lesbian friend

But that woman wasn't naked @Ready to be healthy, she just exposed her chest. If you invited another guy to get in a tub with you and your boyfriend, you would just wear shorts or speedos, right. As far as I can see, that is all she was doing!

 

Hell I never thought to look at when they joined, I know I am new, but I thought being judgmental was kind of taboo here? I speak in generalizations, because that is how we do it in our SA group, so as not to flip certain triggers in people, and this post, will most likely (because of content) flip some triggers. I can see how this whole page, could turn into a story swapping mess quickly. When a bunch of people get together that are trying to stop using "P" and stop "M" the last thing you need is a detailed accounting of a triggering event.

 

The rest of the world is a little less puritan about nudity, so here, it is an extreme rarity to see a naked breast, and I can see how it could be very triggering. I would just have to walk away, and not participate where this woman was present, to keep it from getting awkward for anyone.

 

He just joined under that username. He’s not new, he shit posts like Doc Lolliday, MacManus, Plant Goodness, or whatever other stupid username he’ll think up in the next 5 minutes.

 

First off, I second @CassTeaElle advice. Secondly, be honest with yourself and admit you want to fuck your wife’s friend, and then work on ridding yourself of that fantasy. You’re obsessing of her tits because of your desire to have a threesome with her. I don’t pity you either in this situation since it sounds like the only reason you’re upset is because you don’t want to see what you can’t have. I’m sure if your wife said she was open to the possibility of a threesome then you wouldn’t have a problem with her topless friend at all.

 

Ah, a troll, I use my real name, probably a bit stupid, but what the hell. I don't hide behind a fake profile, that guy is probably a story collector.

 

I think he did admit he wanted her, I still stick with the same advice, if it is that much of a problem, make yourself scarce when she comes around.

 

Didn't realize that finding breasts sexually attractive amounted to weakness.

 

He never said it was. He said obsessing over breasts amounts to weakness.

 

That's great to hear! Thanks for sharing. I'm glad the conversation went so well

 

Communication, I know its a huge cliche' but its so true! You have to talk to one another, so there are NO misunderstandings. This is another thing I am learning!

 

No, he did imply that being triggered by breasts was weak.

 

Really glad you and she talked and managed to sort things out

 

Personally I find it strange that your wife's friend thought it was appropriate to be topless in front of you and your wife. Just out of curiosity..do you and your wife have difficulty expressing your feelings to each other? Sounds like you two might be secretive..or at least keep things to yourselves? Are you scared to call her out? Not judging or suggesting anything..I'm wondering. Because I find it extremely strange this has happened more than once. I think your wife and her friend were possibly testing you here and seeing what your reaction would be? Either that or they are much closer than you think..

The only other idea is that you and your wife are ridiculously relaxed about things like this. As a result your wife (and her friend) thought that her being topless would be perfectly ok..

 

I used the term naked just to draw a similarity a topples woman's breast are more sexual to a straight man than a mans chest is to a gay man- generally.

But even if they sexy straight guy got in in speedos it was still show off his ass and bulge- so would still be triggering/cause one of us to be curious.

 

so here's what I'm thinking OP. If your wife wants to have a threesome with your friend she'll make that happen. Just b/c her and her friend flirt and sometimes say things about you impregnating her friend doesn't mean it will happen. It doesn't even mean they are serious. They may just like the dynamic or the tension and have no plans of seeing it through. Best thing you can do is let them have their fun and act chill about the whole thing. we as men, lead on by the porn industry, make way too many assumptions about things even if they do seem obvious.

 

I honestly don’t know,I feel awkward just reading about this maybe you just talked about this with your wife.

 

He still has the right to have boundaries in place especially as he is trying not to PM- a bit of a flirt and a joke is one thing- but topples Jacuzzi time together is a step to far- anyone would think that is where it's heading. It's also not far on him when he is trying to abstain.