A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

Day 20! Aghhhh, I'm so excited to get to day 21! I gotta think of some kind of reward for getting there, because that's a really, really big accomplishment for me (considering the furthest I've ever made it before is 4 days). I'm really, really excited
The images I keep getting of the girlfriend I had about 2 months back are gradually fading into the background again, as they should be. Urges are getting a little easier to control, but they're still hard to manage.

 

Inspirational as always. Really great way of thinking about the whole thing. Love how you embrace the urges.
Everyone else, I urge (lol. way too proud of that one.) you to follow his instructions. Accepting your urges, feeling them course through your body but also accepting that you WILL NOT act upon them is what is going to truly help you become strong and get over this addiction. Stay strong, all!

 

Awesome job dude!!! I hope to get to where you are on this current streak of mine! Just wondering what do you mean the images of your girlfriend 2 months back?

 

Good, you can do it! What's your streak right now?
Well, you know how breakups are. I quit PMO right after I broke up with this girl, and before I quit, I feel like PMO almost "helped me" get over her, just because of all the other bodies I'd be looking at? I'm not defending it or saying it's a good thing, I just couldn't think of a negative way to say that. Anyways, a lot of my urges come from remembering one of the times we had sex, and the circumstances, location, ending, all that stuff... That's what I mean by images.

 

I am now on day 7! So I’m getting there lol. I can relate with the whole PMO to deal with either breakups, or rejection. Lately I’ve been thinking: “do I want to pmo to get this girl off my mind for 10 minutes? Or do I want to quit pmo for good, so I have the confidence to find an even better girl who will love me for me?” The answer is clear we just gotta keep going. Also when I ask myself questions like that it gives me hope, and hope gets rid of insecurity, and fear of being alone, and that gets rid of intrusive impulsive thoughts about ex girlfriends/girls that I like but don’t like me back. Who cares about those girls, now that we’re not fapping, we can go out and meet new ones, and not be scared of rejection, because we feel good about ourselves!!!

 

Well yeah, I totally agree with all of that and I love your entheusiasm for finding new people. It's not like I can just make her vanish from my head, though. She'll fade in time, but for the most part I can't do anything to keep her from randomly popping into my head lol.

 

Man you don’t have to tell me, I suck at getting over people. It’s a hard thing to do.

 

3/31. Some very inspirational things and good tips these last few days. Going to take them all on board

 

2/30. Thinking a lot about my habits and ways to change them. Fighting procrastination, which is my main trigger. I exercise every morning and stop to eat after 5 p.m. Have relapsed a couple times but my life is changing. Although I am not perfect, I stay away from PMO most of the time.

 

Hi everyone. Sadly this last week I've been very stressed. I got back in touch with my father after two years of not seeing him. It's a beautiful experience and I'm very happy, but it's stressful. Also my grades were going downhill for a while, even though I managed to get back going in the last few days. Since saturday morning I slipped back into the old habits, perhaps even in worse ones. I don't want to get into the details of what I did, but it was not nice. transgendered people. Edging. Since sunday morning I have been weak, depressed and aching, every day I got through a haze of numbness and anxiety. Which lead to binging. Which lead to more pain and so on. I don't know what was the trigger. But now it's time to stop. Once I let this go on for almost a month. I have to break the cycle as soon as I can. Let's do this together.

 

tbh i just stay at home all day playing games because i flatline from day 1 and it makes me tired as fuck and with all thats happening in our family Always im stressed as fuck

 

Whats up guys? Back from radio silence. I have had serious trouble with emotions and depression these last few weeks which led to giving in to the desire to escape. I consider this a serious setback.
But I have to rationalize that last year around this time (christmas always gets me stressed up and anxious as f...) I was in the lowest point of my life - lost my job, burning my bridges, getting drunk and doing drugs every day. So all in all, I have to say that my life is still moving forward. I must admit that I am actually doing pretty good.

On to the next challenge! 10 days to the new year. I can do it.
This time I'm allowing myself to have sex with my GF. I will try semen retention techniques because I really believe in conserving the Jing/the vital essence. But still. Can't hold it back every time and I honestly think that orgasming with my GF during healthy sex and no fantasizing during the act is helpful to a good reboot - Let me hear your opinions on this one?

Flatline is so shitty, I think we can all agree. See if you can find the time to go out for a walk sometime during the light hours. Going for walks really helps me a lot. Getting the blood moving around is good for generating energy. And it's relaxing and a nice distraction sometimes. Sometimes random people try to start a conversation - I try to welcome that as a nice distraction, even if the person is really weird.

Hey man, that's my story exactly. I don't know what it is, maybe it's the dark days, maybe its the stress from christmas. This time of year has always been the hardest for me. Let's break the cycle. Let's get to the new year PMO free. We can do it.

 

Day 1/30.. probably the worst day of my life.
I had hardcore depression, anxiety, dizziness, suicidal thoughts, my nose started to bleed
you name it

I have a way too big heart for people and, they take it for granted
I don't blame anyone except for myself. fuck my life