I don't understand why i was watching porn when i have hobby to keep me busy,porn for me from what i could get was escape fantasy even then i hate myself for watching that,if i could i could cut myself and hurt myself to get me to stop but that's me.
It's good to think about why you watched porn. I encourage you to give the following questions some thought, even write the answers down somewhere. Why do you watch porn? If there's reasons to watch it, why do you want to stop? How are you going to stop then? Keep reminding yourself of all the things you need energy for. One hobby may not be enough, fill your schedule with things that you value. And set some goals and rewards to look forward to as this journey is hard with the withdrawals. Don't be too hard on yourself, I haven't heard of anyone who did this the first time. And the old saying good things don't come easy is certainly true in overcoming this addiction, but many have and so can you!
Breaking the cycle by george collins. READ IT. if you truly want to get deep into the “why the hell am i doing this” thing, that book offers many many good points and exercises we can use to help us overcome this behavior. Im currently reading and doing these things myself and insee it helping
Take action on the tips people give you don’t just think act it’s whats been helping me a lot lately actually doing and stop planning
This has been the case with me. Lost count how many times I tried over the past 39 years. Not until I started paying for a therapist last month did I ever have a sign of victory over this. I wish I could have done this easier and cheaper but it’s true, good things don’t come easy. Hopefully you can achieve victory without seeing a therapist, it’s damn expensive! But for me, even with a recent “bump in the road” I finally see light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve been feeling a lot better mentally and emotionally since getting professional counseling and that alone is strong motivation to continue to get clear of porn. And the prospects for the future are even more incentive.
I'm glad to hear you're having better outcomes with therapy, I started seeing a therapist a few months ago and it helps me stay accountable just meeting a real person. Without talking to a person in real life it was too easy for me to go into denial and live a lazy life for months at a time before something made me try again... It does cost a bit, but it's an investment in something you can't put a value on
don't hate yourself for it. don't attach yourself with the process at all it is dangerous to attach yourself and feel guilt. don't call it a failure call it a lesson. failure is a must in anything you do in life. every relapse is a lesson you need to learn to grow so relapsing makes you grow. start again and fail again but never give up because once you give up this would be the real failure.
All we know how difficult is this. But if you want to crash the cycle. Must reading all the time here the other stories. With this you understand the stages away from porn addiction and you will be ready for everything. You must read and understand the changes witch created in our brain from the porn. (Read about dopamine and porn). With this you understand the difficulty and why we can't stop it so easy. You must learn from your old relapses the reasons for relapse and don't do again. Need find other things to keep you brain busy. Need writing every day your personal blog here. With this you will be focus to your target. Don't forget why are you here and what it your target . FOCUS