Hello everybody, I'm a rebooter, but I never integrated myself into the Nofap community until now. I used porn regularly since I was around 15 until 23 years-old. I've been in a process of quitting porn for 4 months I made a hell of a progress I went from masturbating to porn almost every day to only 2 relapses (masturbating to porn) within this period of 4 months. Occasionally I check out porn here and there ( 1 hour at maximum. i went this long only twice or thrice), which is a relapse, but not even close to what it used to be. The thing is that I have a major weakness I get such a thrill at watching women soft spanking each other (Nothing too extreme, the kind of thing that your girl would let you do if she happens to be into) I get the impression that this genre is slightly better than watching those kinds of porn that exhibit people completely naked and performing hardcore sex, not to mention more bizarre genres. What is weird is that I began to get interested in spanking after starting to quit porn. Do you guys think that there is, in fact, less harmful genders of porn? or Is it me attempting to rationalize aspects of my addiction?
Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Is some porn worse than others? Well, think of it this way: some poison will kill you really fast, others not so much. To me it's the same situation. It's all bad. I hope you keep coming back!
Thanks for sharing your point of view and some information, I want somebody to expend more on this subject, however. .
It depends on what turns you on. If spanking turns you on more than regular porn, then I would say that that genre is worse for you. Pornography is typically used in a gradual way. You find something that turns you on, so you continue to view it until that no longer turns you on, so you go watch other stuff, and it just keeps going on and on. What turns you on now may not be arousing anymore in 6 months or a year from now. Your taste may change.
I'd say any kind of porn is bad, as long as it took little physical effort to obtain and can be searched for over and over. And if you're addicted, then I reckon all porn boils down to the same dopamine process in your brain, so any PMO is a step back. The whole point of all this for many of us is to redirected our sexual energy to actual living females, or for religious reasons; all porn by definition is the same step backward. I've heard some here say that when you start seeking porn of things you wouldn't normally find attractive, or even find disgusting or appalling, just for the shock value, then you're in a deeper hole than you otherwise would be. But that has less to do with specific genre and more to do with how you view said genre (e.g. gay porn may "shock" a heterosexual into a PMO, but of course a gay man wouldn't find it unusual). Basically, it's all about perpective. Set your own personal goals, preferably ones which have you abstaining from internet porn altogether.
You raised a very interesting point I've never been into spanking until now, so I might be worse. The only thing that intrigues me is that It began after starting my recovery and in addition to that I normally fantasize about real women in this spanking thing. Do you have any insight on It?
Thanks for your perspective I'm not gonna play around with it anymore. I'm decided to do all I can to stop it altogether before it messes up with me even more. I've been reading really scaring stuff here. After 9 years of porn addiction with 2 hours daily use at the peak of the addiction, should I assume that I hit bottom?
I wouldn't say it is a sign of anything unless you knew about spanking porn in the past and it had appalled you, or you had tried it before and it turned you off. If you had just found a new, harmless genre, I'd say that's normal (though still just as much a breach in your pledge and just as bad for your addiction).